I want to go on holiday on my own

[paintedfences]

For a week, somewhere hot, with a swim up pool bar and massages and a king size bed all of my own. I want to load up my kindle and podcasts and do yoga and sleep and not talk to anyone else unless I want to.

I love my dh and my almost 14 month old but it was 'my' morning lie in this am and the little sod woke up at 4 and dh couldn't get him back down for an hour, cue in our bed, in his room, down to make a bottle, baby crawling all over. For fucks fucking sake. What use is a 'lie in' if you've not got any shitting sleep in the first place?

And I am so so so sick of my shitty half renovated bastard house. I am sick of saying 'it'll be great when it's done' and making do, and trying to sweep particle board floors around piles of tiles. I want it done fucking NOW. I am sick of standing on tile spacers and trying to sell excess radiators in between being a professional human 4 days a week and making meals and doing baby things not to mention all the endless stupid personal tasks I have to do, like dressing in matching clothes (requires laundry, another thing to do - yay!

why?! Why bother?! Why can't I just pack a bag go somewhere for a week and sleep?! I want it all to just fuck the fuck off. Arrrrggghhhh. Everything aches. 😭 why does everything ache?

I know a million people have it a million times worse than me, before everyone rushes in to tell me to count my blessings.

I'm just saying, I could count my blessings from 1000 miles away on a sunlounger.

Well "you go girlfriend"

Puts cool clothes on fevered brow, so what's the other half's perspective on the none lie in, and your possible fantasy holiday

This afternoon, go and buy a Bottle of Sangria, give your child to DH and say "see you at teatime, bring home fish and chips"
Then crank up heating, towel on bed, eyemask and bikini on, headphones in and listen to a podcast while getting lightly pissed.

I hear you! We all know things could be so much worse, but the endlessness of the drudgery makes me fantasise about a week alone, too. Even with a partner who does their fair share, there’s always so much to be done. Aching all the time too, so tired. My house also being DIY renovated. It wasn’t liveable without having work down, so it’s being done, in between the countless other tasks that need doing like laundry and cooking, life admin, work admin, kid stuff. I just want more than a ten minute sit down Here and there, which is what I’m doing now, but knowing it’s ending soon and I need to do stuff just makes it crap.

I’ve done exactly this! DH and I took it in turns to to go on solo holidays when DC were small. I’d go diving in the Maldives, he went bear/whale watching in Alaska. ‘Twas fucking awesome

I actually did this recently! (Kind of). I used the excuse that my 13 yr old son hadn't had a holiday this year and everyone else had. So we went to a 5* place in Tenerife for a week the week before Christmas.

He just wanted to swim and read and so did i, we didn't talk much, he doesn't require a lot of parenting like a smaller one would.

I left DH and 2 17 yr olds at home - he didn't cope well with having to do everything I normally do. It was great!

Go and have a well deserved rest 💐

If you can't afford hot and sunny do some long weekends away in a premier inn somewhere!

Why don't you go on holiday on your own?

I do every year, it's fabulous.

Could you actually go? I mean can you afford it? Have someone to look after your baby?

If so don’t just talk about it. Go!

Ohhh me too!

Single parent and the Christmas holidays! everything hurts. My EYE BALLS hurt - do you get that?! A day out to starbucks and the library would be bliss!

Ah thank you all, I thought I might get a kicking.

Poor maligned DH is a good guy, just currently I parent while he tries to finish the house and it's wearing, for both of us.

Can't really afford it tbh but maybe I can ask my mum if she'd have him for the night and we could get something cheap. I think he's too small for us to go away for longer than a weekend really.