to think people who ghost are total wazzocks

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Really!

If you can't even bung out a text saying "Soz, it's not you it's me" but just start blocking, what's the matter with you?

(In a non-abusive relationship that seemed to be going fine, as far as one partner knew)

YANBU, obviously doesn't apply to abusive relationships but it really isn't hard to send a text saying "sorry it's not going to work out".

I have ghosted a couple of guys before, but mainly because I didn’t want to open a conversation and it was after 1 crap date.

If I’d seen them more often then I’d send a message saying I wasn’t feeling it. I have been ghosted loads too though!

I don't see much wrong with ghosting to be honest.

Its never nice to be at the receiving end but I guess ghosting after a few dates isn't so bad. But ghosting to end an actual relationship is very different!

I agree with you. I put the shoe on the other foot and think that if I were the other person I would want to know whether we were going to go out again or not. It takes two minutes max to put a text together - there's no excuse for ghosting.

I think if a guy is a creep on a date it’s a very good excuse for ghosting! I’ve had dates where I’ve left early and blocked/deleted them immediately.

I totally agree. Only a total ignoramus would do it, and there's absolutely no excuse ... unless of course the 'date' was a horrible person.
It takes so little effort just to come back and say 'sorry, I didn't feel any spark' or whatever.
YADNBU.

It's happened to me twice.

Once after a relationship of a few months. I found out later that the guy wanted it to be more serious and I wasn't picking up on his hints.
So he went in a huff and ghosted me.
Don't know what he hoped to achieve.

Now in a friendship of a couple of months that I thought might become romantic but not bothered if it didn't - I'm suddenly blocked!

Sound like maybe I'm lucky it's only happened twice, tho?

I totally read the title wrong and thought "well yes, people dressing in white sheets and making "oooOOOOOOOOoooo" noises at others are total wazzocks"

I need more coffee......

It helped me to get over them quickly, tho, finding out they're selfish pillocks.

They clearly didn't want friendship, OP. They wanted more and probably assumed you were stringing them along, got brave and just got shut of you 🤷‍♀️

Sounds like you need to be a little more assertive with what you want and don't want instead of just floating along.

I read your posts and the tone of them, and I don't know whether you're prepared to shine your acerbic forthright spotlight on yourself.

If you are prepared to see what might be wrong here, then YANBU and they're being weird.

If you're not, then YABU.

Its basic manners just to say thanks but no thanks if you've met, especially if the other person has text asking to meet again. Just be clear and kind.

GinDaddy, you think I come across as so acerbic that it's reasonable to just block & vanish?

Cryingoverspilttea, you could be right that I should be more assertive.
I still think a chat, or at least a goodbye, would be nice rather than disappearing.

Wazzock! I've not heard anyone use that term since my dad died 5 years ago. He was a great fan of the term Wazzock!

Anyway, yes, ghosting is pretty shitty, although I guess it has its place sometimes.