Cookiegate

[violetbunny]

DP and I are on holiday abroad. We've had a packed schedule doing a lot of activities together, so today we decided to each have some time to do some individual activities and have a bit of me time. DP is going on a birdwatching tour (yawn) and I've opted to have a day by the pool and getting some spa treatments 😀

Yesterday we bought some snacks because DP will be out the whole day today from 5am to 5pm so he wanted a few bits to keep him going, plus I wanted some cookies to enjoy on my "me-time" day. I bought some delicious looking choc chip macadamia cookies and DP got some fruit, Oreos and a large bag of crisps.

I just got back to the hotel room to discover that DP has taken ALL the snacks with him, including my cookies. He saw me buy them and knew they were mine. Plus the greedy bastard already had his own snacks. I just messaged him to ask if he took them and his reply was, "I was hungry". No apology at all!

He is usually kind and generous but occasionally has moments of thoughtlessness. I am now suffering from Severe Cookie Disappointment. Usually I wouldn't care but this was meant to be a "treat" day for me, it's rare that I get to have a day of self indulgence like this so I'm annoyed. I guess I could go and buy some more but it's a million degrees outside.

Am I being petty and unreasonable, or should I start thinking of creative ways to punish the greedy fucker for being a cookie thief?

Just go and buy some more

The Biscuit Bandit has returned, looking a bit sheepish. He has also taken me out for dinner so has now been forgiven

That would boil my blood.
Punish him! 😂

I'm glad to hear that he took you out for dinner and was suitably sheepish. Quite right too.

Doing separate activities for part of your holiday is such a good idea. Years ago DH had a lazy pool/pool bar/reading day whilst I went scuba diving. He hates the water and boats so there was no question of him coming. We both had a lovely day.

When you get home bake him some cookies - with laxative chocolate chips.

FFS all these insults and feeling stabby over a packet of biscuits?

It's not really about a packet of biscuits. They both chose some snacks they wanted to have, and the OP should have the reasonable assumption that she would get to eat hers. The partner got up and decided that she didn't have the right to eat the snacks she chose and he was just going to take them for himself, leaving her with no snacks. It's really selfish, rude and entitled behaviour, which you might expect from a 12 year old but not a grown adult.

Exactly CodenameVillanelle, I'm surprised that needed explaining.

@CodenameVillanelle you seem pretty angry about a pack of biscuits.

Rude, selfish and entitled are a tad extreme really...

She literally went and got another pack 1 hour after she posted. I don't think she's anywhere near as upset as you are...

Yes I did post this lightheartedly. I was a little annoyed but it certainly wasn't the end of the world. Like I said, DP is a kind person, he is usually very generous but occasionally just doesn't engage his brain 😂

Surely a 'cookie' is a different thing to a 'biscuit'. If the pack said they were 'cookies' then I presume they were. We have 'cookies' in the UK too! But Mumsnet is funny about words! There must be a pre-approved list somewhere as lots of posters like to tell you you used the wrong word and you should have used a different one for some odd reason!

But that aside - very selfish to steal your cookies but I'm glad you are getting replacements!

Overwritten.

Still not forgiven my ex for the mini cheddar incident, Christmas 1992.

[completely ignoring the OP here]

I’m baffled by the hatred of the word ‘cookie’. A cookie (in British English) is literally a type of biscuit. If someone said ‘choc chip biscuit’ I would be thinking of those digestive things with chocolate chips in.

A cookie is either soft and chewy or harder and crumbly and normally has chocolate chips in.

Cookies and biscuits are different things, though. Cookies are the softer ones and biscuits are the ones that snap.

No. Cookies are yummy scrummy things that can be giant or small and soft or crumbly or snappy. No idea why it is offensive in the UK. I call them cookies. I think of biscuits as sort of disappointing dry things with little joy. Like the overly optimistic sounding 'rich tea' or gingerbread biscuits.

So he didn't buy enough yesterday and happily cleared out the entire snack selection for himself? That doesn't sound very good does it. Hopefully he isn't normally so selfish.

No one could call a chocolate digestive a cookie, surely? Except a small child brought up on a diet of Sesame Street.

He did engage his brain. He took your food knowing he was wrong and you’d be upset - but he did it anyway. He’s selfish. You know this. He’s probably “very” generous on his own terms. I’m glad you can see the funny side but if my DH took my food, I would not be held responsible for my actions. I have a patio and a spade. 😉

When he took you out for dinner I hope you ate your meal and his too.

No idea why it is offensive in the UK. I call them cookies. I think of biscuits as sort of disappointing dry things with little joy. Like the overly optimistic sounding 'rich tea' or gingerbread biscuits.

Ahh are you also American? I'm always disappointed by biscuits. Also it annoys me an unreasonable amount when I make Christmas cookies and the in laws keep asking what they're for. Eating ffs!

I get that the thread is lighthearted however this was selfish of him. He put his needs/wants above yours and made his lack of planning your issue.

As for being 'taken out for dinner' to make it up, I'd assume as you were on holiday it was the norm for both of you to eat out and not for you to have to be 'taken' anywhere?!

@Pumpkintopf considering they only bought snacks because he was out all day, and he took the biscuits because he was too early for breakfast, they probably have their meals included in the price of the hotel.

YABU your racist hatred of the word and you're just being pedantic. In the UK, cookies is used to describe a specific kind of biscuit.
What is racist @MumW?
I live in the US and Americans don't use the word cookie as much as British people, (they tend to say type; snickerdoodle, oatmeal raisin, etc.

Ok, I'll take one for the team, wtf is a snickerdoodle?!

I think they are originally German. Chewy and rolled in cinnamon, I hate the word "snickerdoodle" as well. Certain words really bother me 😂
(Which according to a previous stupid poster is racist!!! 😂)

Ooh I love German biscuits, I'm currently stuck under a sleeping baby and this thread is making me hungry.