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CFN...well not really but still...AIBU?

17 replies

Crazyhouse123 · 04/01/2020 16:15

So our CFN neighbours garden is in a "L" shape. The end of the L is the bottom of out garden. They have a workshop up against our wall which is great for privacy. On their border are 4 beautiful trees that are full of birds pretty much all the time.

Today he has been out there and chopped all 4 down. I mean they are his trees he can do what he wants with them, but it has made me really grrrr. We are losing so much wildlife and I try really hard to plant things to attract butterflies and birds. Now they have nowhere safe to sing at me in the summer. They used to be full of blue tits and sparrows and all sorts. Where are they going to go Sad the trees were casting no shadows on his garden and were in no ones way.

Now I like this neighbour and family. They are good neighbours. They are his trees on his land. I dont have a huge garden and no room to put trees like this in. So he has done nothing wrong. Hes not really a Cf (unless you are a bird that used to sit in the trees).

However AIBU to want to plant a Californian redwood? I seem to recall that these grow very quickly.

Ok maybe not a redwood. I will let my buddleia get bigger this year and put some more big shrubs in. But still......Sad

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WorraLiberty · 04/01/2020 16:18

If you haven't already planted a couple of trees yourself, I don't think you've got grounds to be upset really.

It's a shame yes, but all you can do is your own bit for the birds.

BabbleBee · 04/01/2020 16:20

We’ve got 3 lovely trees at the bottom of the garden, without close inspection you’d probably think they should be left alone. They’re actually diseased and we have to cut them down before they fall - could yours be the same? Or maybe the root network is a problem?

Soubriquet · 04/01/2020 16:22

I would put up my own trees right where the others were

Crazyhouse123 · 04/01/2020 16:30

WorraLiberty oh I know but I have planted what I can in my garden (it's really tiny) and there really is no room to put a tree without it being an issue for my neighbours either side. I have allowed my shrubs to get really big and pick those that have berries in the autumn for the birds.

BabbleBee possibly but these were two different types of trees, would this be possible?

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Ohdearohdearyme · 04/01/2020 16:32

I tend to think people dont chop trees down for no reason (for unnecessary cost alone) so there probably is a good reason such as disease or roots causing issues.

TheCanterburyWhales · 04/01/2020 16:32

Neighbour cuts down own trees in own garden? And he's a nice neighbour?

Are we missing something here?

Crazyhouse123 · 04/01/2020 16:39

TheCanterburyWhales umm no. He did nothing wrong. They are his trees. He is a nice man. I'm just being miserable because I liked the trees!

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AllYouGoodGoodPeople · 04/01/2020 16:47

My neighbour recently had a diseased tree cut down from the front of the house. It was right on the edge of her drive and spent the year either chucking sap, berries, blossom or leaves over my car. However I miss the stupid thing, I keep driving past my own bloody house and I'm blinded by the streetlamp shining directly in.

Is he going to plant a replacement do you think?

JMoore · 04/01/2020 16:49

It's always a shame to see mature trees go (our garden is in its infancy - nothing higher than 1.5m in it yet - I would love some nice, big trees), but unfortunately it can't be avoided in some cases. And even if the trees are healthy, the roots can cause big problems. Maybe the neighbours are going to plant something else there?

Crazyhouse123 · 04/01/2020 16:53

JMoore yeah I have figured it might be the roots. It is such a shame. However the good thing is I have now persuaded DP to get rid of the old shed in the corner so I can plant a tree. Yay! He has a new shed and this one just has some old junk in it that, despite his protests otherwise, really is no use to anyone.

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SynchroSwimmer · 04/01/2020 17:11

I would be finding space for a little “Katy” variety eating apple tree for myself, on dwarf root-stock...so it stays small...

SynchroSwimmer · 04/01/2020 17:13

Apple variety Katy...

CFN...well not really but still...AIBU?
Crazyhouse123 · 04/01/2020 17:22

SynchroSwimmer that's a lovely idea and could quite probably fit in my border now anyway! Thank you!

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Dollymixture22 · 04/01/2020 17:29

As a plea from someone suffering from others planting, don’t plant trees right up against the boundary.

I am surrounded by trees, sycamores which are wholly unsuited to the small gardens. The grass in my garden has stopped growing and any garden furniture I buy get ruined.

Trees are lovely is the are appropriate for the setting and within your own boundary.

Crazyhouse123 · 04/01/2020 17:37

Oh I know! I wouldn't plant anything like a sycamore. I will research root and branch spread before I buy.

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Dollymixture22 · 04/01/2020 17:43

Wish you were my neighbour😊

BabbleBee · 04/01/2020 18:40

@Crazyhouse123 I have two different types, one is sycamore and another is a type of birch I think but the bark on all trees has been broken down by a weird fungus thing, the inside of the trunk is soggy where it’s being broken down by insects and rain. It can only be seen from one side. We will replace them in time, hopefully your neighbour will too.

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