Name calling in a relationship

[GodolphianArabian]

Am I being unreasonable in being upset that my husband called me a knobhead?

Apparently it's a term of endearment.

Context?

Why bother posting if you’re not going to provide full context?

My DP does it all the time, but not in a nasty way. I call him a twat but not nastily, more like when he makes me laugh by doing something stupid 'You twat' 😁 I suppose it depends on how it was said and how you feel about it.

DH and I call one another terrible names, but in a very affectionate way, if that makes sense. We both do it though. If you don’t like it, ask him not to.

Yes, definitely need context here. It's all about the tone and overall situation.

Depends on the context

Another one who is saying it depends on the context.
Me and my husband call each other names in an affectionate way, but never in an argument or through nastiness.
According to him I'm a daft bat, according to me he's a knobber.

It's fine if you're fine with it, it's not fine if you're not. Tell him how it makes you feel.

Depends on context!

Dh and I are always calling each other names but it’s never meant is a nasty way more as terms of endearments...

Apparently it's a term of endearment

So it was said in jest?

Me and dh always call eachother names.. Dickhead. Toss Pot. Twat.
It's all in Jest..

Context is everything.

“You’re a fucking nobhead and I hate” and “Love you nobhead” are very different which one fits your context?

...hate you 🤦🏻‍♀️

Not enough information to judge here

I was running late taking daughter to swimming so let the dog into the garden for their morning wee and he had to then get out of bed to let them back in. Name calling is not really something we do usually.

If it offends you, it offends you. Wouldn’t and doesn’t bother me. Unless it’s said aggressively.

So was he cross he had to get out of bed or was he saying you were being daft for forgetting to let the dog back in?

It's pointless asking other people because we all set our own boundaries.

Personally I like banter and I go with what the comedian Micky Flanagan says, that when you are at the stage were you can randomly call each other cunts, you are secure.

But if it was said nastily and it's not usual then talk about it.

Was it said through tiredness?

I've voted yanbu but having thought about it, dh & I call each other arseholes all the time and it means nothing. Just tell him later on that you don't like it and not to do it again.

Agree with the others, it does depend on the context. DP and I name call, but affectionately. Only this morning I said ‘you’re a knobhead, but you’re my knobhead and I wouldn’t change you for the world’ 🤷🏼‍♀️

All about the context, I call my DP a knobhead when he does something that makes me laugh. He calls me a dickhead or a poo head depending on his mood