To want to run away from life?

[escapetheworld]

I am totally and utterly fed up. I feel like I want to leave everything I know and live somewhere nobody knows me and nobody can ask anything of me.

DH seems to annoy me on a daily basis, just minor things but they mount up and annoy the hell out of me. He also drinks too much.

My grown up kids just involve me in everything. Great that they feel they can confide in me but they seem to want to offload their minor annoyances on me/ask me for help with things they should be able to deal with. I get a constant barrage of messages from them and it wears me out.

My dm is ill so I'm trying to be there for her but the extended family keep texting me asking for updates when I don't really have much I can tell them. Yes, I know it's because they care but it's relentless.

I work part time and do voluntary work (that I can't stop doing for a fair while as I'm committed to a specific project) plus look after the house.

I just feel emotionally drained, I'm constantly at the end of my tether and I just can't see how I can lessen my mental load, I want to switch everyone off for a week!

That sounds massively hard work!

I would really think of setting some boundaries. Tell the in laws YOU will update them when there is news. And if they message reply that there is no update, but you will let them know to save them keep texting.

Have a chat with your DP, be honest about how you are feeling and what you want to change. Explain how important it is that things change or you will consider leaving if that is really how you feel.

Start pushing the kids to manage their own problems, give them SOME air time to talk about what’s going on but them change the subject with a cheery “Anyway, what else is going on with you”

I think you need to be a bit stronger with the people around you, so you are less put upon.