I’m 38, partner not sure about a baby and wants me wait

[Maybebabymummy]

Am I being unreasonable to ask partner to rethink having baby now or leave?

I’m 38 had a baby in my late teens, very complicated pregnancy health wise, the chances of it happening again in another pregnancy are high. I have always been a single mum, have always dreamed of having a family. My partner of two years is divorced with a 7 year old. Great dad. Financially stable. We live separate but only because it’s complicated with my older child’s education and was easier to wait until this spring to move. Everyone gets on well. My child already has a room at his house and we spend time there. Take holidays together etc already a family of sorts. I could move earliest March / April time and boyfriend would love me too. That’s been the plan for a while but holding off due to sons school. I would like to trying for baby shortly after we moved in. He’s still unsure about another child and want us to wait a year see if he feels differently in a year. I think this would be reasonable had I been younger and not 38years old.

Obviously my hormones and clock are ticking and maybe I’m maybe I’m being unreasonable but I don’t see the point in waiting. If he’s not sure now will he ever be sure?

He doesn't want another baby.

Unfortunately, it’s always going to be reasonable for him to wait until he wants a baby. There’s never going to be a point where it’s reasonable for him to have to have one he doesn’t want.

He doesn’t want a baby at the moment and shouldn’t be talked into it. Unfair to him and the subsequent child. You both have a child so would already be a family of four.

If a baby means more to you than him let him go so he can find someone that wants him for him.

He doesn't want another child, and personally, I think it's foolish to rush right into having a baby before you've even lived together for a decent period of time. Given your age, and especially the serious complications you suffer during pregnancy, I think you should be happy with the child you do have and now look forward to your future with your partner.

It's so hard when hormones are screaming, but you do already have a child. Babies are hard work and can test/alter the strongest relationships, he is right to want to wait I think. I wonder if you ride it out the desire for another will fade?

I'm your age and I believe overall my life would be happier and less stressful if I didn't have another, but if you truly want another child you cant really wait. Just be prepared to do it alone.