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To not meet relatives tomorrow

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Orangeblossom78 · 03/01/2020 05:52

We have been busy all over Christmas with relatives. First DH was away with work before the break for two weeks then his wife and family came the week before the holidays. Since then we have been to his parents and other siblings, also had illness to deal with and now my sibling and family are staying . I'm just feeling exhausted and getting a cold , also struggle with anxiety.

Yesterday hosted my sibling and family and they seemed a bit fed up and grumpy and DH was afterwards saying he had enough needed a break. Last day off work also for him.

They only want to do this one activity a long walk tomorrow and none of us feeling up for it. Aibu to say we are not going? Rather than go and be bored. They have come quite a long way which makes me feel bad but think we just need a day off

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RibenaMonsoon · 03/01/2020 06:42

Bit of a hectic time of year this. For sure.
Can you feign illness so as to not upset anyone's feelings?
Hope it's less hectic for you today.

yearinyearout · 03/01/2020 06:48

I'd change that cold you e got coming into "I feel like I have the flu, you go and have a lovely walk but I need to stay home and rest, and DH needs to stay and make me cups of tea/fetch me drugs from the pharmacy"

MsPepperPotts · 03/01/2020 07:16

Definitely cancel. The sooner the better
Have the day off and rest up.
Too much stress all round from hosting families at this time of year.

Orangeblossom78 · 03/01/2020 14:08

I gave the message and it is actually true me and my youngest are feeling cold like and on top have period. They are saying they will ring later about coming round though.

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Orangeblossom78 · 03/01/2020 14:49

Now I'm getting messages saying how sad thier DC are. But they saw them yesterday for ages. Argh

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Shoxfordian · 03/01/2020 16:00

Don't reply or feel guilty when you don't want to do it

starfishmummy · 03/01/2020 16:20

Your DH's wife and family came to stay??? If hes your DH, isnt that you or is he a bigamist?

CustardySergeant · 03/01/2020 16:24

I'm glad you mentioned that starfishmummy. I thought I was the only one confused by that.

Orangeblossom78 · 03/01/2020 16:25

Haha sister I meant! Too many relatives!

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Hepsibar · 03/01/2020 16:35

Next year, why dont you go to the Carribean for two weeks and let them all sort each other out. You have no stress of cooking, cleaning and just relax. There is usally a wonderful gala meal. Go on treat yourselves.

Orangeblossom78 · 03/01/2020 17:01

Sounds great! I have a friend, doesn't get on with her parents (alcoholics) and she went skiing with her family over the Christmas break. That sounds perfect (but expensive)

The DC were not happy to see ours anyway. They were pretty rude and demanding tbh

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Orangeblossom78 · 03/01/2020 17:02

Nothing about hope ours are better soon or anything like that either. Hmm. Oh well

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