AIBU she wants to know what I'm doing

[Shewantstoknow]

When ex dropped the kids off couple days ago, we spoke for a bit just general chit chat. We get on well, he’s been living with his partner for a year now, I’ve just met her once when I dropped the kids off at his house.

I can’t remember how we got to it, but he suddenly said “ and even x wants to know what you do all day when the kids stay at mine” AIBU to be a bit about this? I asked him if she’s ok with the kids staying there 3 days in a row and he said yes she likes it as they play with her daughter.

I don’t know if I’m just being a bit sensitive?

Was he serious or was it a bit jokey? I'd say same as you do when I've got them!

Yanbu, but its not worth a second more if your time thinking about it.

What does he do when he's not looking after his child, presumably for 4 nights at a time? It's a ridiculous thing for him to say.

How ridiculous, what does she think you do? That does make it sound like she’s resenting you having three days straight child free. Does the father of her child not see her?

I don't think it's got anything to do with anyone what you do when the kids are not with you.

YANBU. It’s none of their business.

maybe she was looking for tips?

Tbh if she is expected to look after the children while your ex is at work and you are at home, free, then I don't blame her for being narky.

Yanbu she should mind her business.

@HollowTalk if the new partner has an issue with looking after OP’s kids, then she needs to bring it up with her partner, not wonder what OP is doing with her time, it’s none of her business

Maybe.. Just maybe.. She is actually concerned that you are ok being on your own without the kids for a few days. And the intent of her curiosity isn't as harsh as your ex put it.

Either way you have the right to not have to provide an answer to anyone.

Wtf is it to do with her OR your ex.

I can't believe she said that!

I would have told him it is nothing to do with you or her what the fuck I am doing ..... OK !!!

None of their business.

You could lie in your own filth for three days and it’s nowt to do with either of them.

Just a guess but does her dd see her df? Or does she have the dd all the time?

I would of laughed and said ' Well I watch Netflix and Masturbate! Duh '

If she has her daughter full time maybe she is jokingly wistful about what it's like to have consistent child free time. I wouldn't take it in a bad way.

I'd have said it's not his business and certainly not hers.