Rant about exh

[Dhalandchips]

I've posted about dd (11) not wanting to go to here dad's before, due to him treating her like a skivvy. About three weeks before Xmas she started up seeing him again because she missed his gf.

GF texted her a week before Xmas asking what she'd like from her dad for Xmas. Dd sent some links to GF with ideas for presents.

He didn't see them over Xmas, they went to his on nye, came back today. I asked them she and her brother had got from their dad...
She got a bloody plastic fortune telling fish (the sort you get in a cracker), some cheap plastic lights on a string and a colour in pencil case. DS got Ps4 game alongside the plastic fortune telling sodding fish. Dd is a little sad, and I'm very sad for her.

AIBU to be bloody cross that he's so obviously treated them so differently? Why bloody bother asking what she wants if you're just going to bloody ignore it. Bastard.

It makes me want to have a go but I'm not going to. I don't communicate with him at all, except to arrange the kids weekends with him.

Nob.

What a nasty bastard.

Why did the girlfriend bother asking? It sounded like the GF and your DD got on ok.

Why does he treat them differently? Is he the bio father of one but not the other?

Bio dad of both. He's a useless dick. I'm really grateful (usually) that the kids are really fond of his gf. He makes everyone else do everything for him, I feel sorry for gf, but she's a grown up, she'll eventually see him for what he is. I reckon he's asked her to text dd, gf has told him what DS said, then he's done naff all about it. Git.

He treats DS like a Prince and dd like a skivvy. Cos he's a misogynist.

My ex was the other way around with my two; Dd got whatever she wanted and DS for nothing, and no attention. Now DD is a teen and has opinions he's cut them both off. Bloody pathetic. They don't deserve them.

My DH’s ex did this! Their daughter got a big sack of lots of presents (given on 22nd as that was all the Christmas she was interested in) and their sons got nothing, literally nothing. She’s promised them money but that will never materialise.

It’s awful and I totally sympathise.

No, I agree. Life would be so much easier if he just didn't bother. It's all for appearances anyway. He largely ignores them when they're there anyway. His Gf looks after them, talks to them, acknowledges their existence... He plasters all over FB that he's a super dad but we know the reality!

Oh fuzzle, that's so sad!

He's a dick.

But he's killed his own relationship with his DD. His problem, not yours.

I would point it out to your DS now about how shit he is to his sister and that's not how you treat your children.

Ooh, interesting to see someone thinks I'm being U.

They must have meant HE is being unreasonable OP.

He’s a dick. Useless. He’ll reap what he sows.

I strongly suspect Dd will go on visit strike again.
I have had several conversations wit DS about how his dad's idle/demanding/lazy fucker behaviour is one of the reasons for the demise of the marriage. He says he doesn't blame me and he'll Never treat his girlfriend /wife/partner like that! He's a good lad!

Your poor DD. What an arsehole

My thoughts exactly
I really want to have a rant at him! But I know it will fall in deaf ears as he can do no wrong, being so wonderful and everything!