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To call in sick

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Sexnotgender · 02/01/2020 01:22

For my first day back from maternity leave?

DS has been really ill (exposed to hand foot and mouth but no blisters so not 100% sure that’s what he’s got but likely).
DH and DD have also been sick but I thought I’d escaped it.

Until day before yesterday, begun to feel rough. Miserable all day yesterday and today. Now I’m in bed and have been since 9.30, I’m still awake and under a 13.5 tog duvet with a fleece on. I was chilled to my bones and aching, took some ibuprofen and it took away the chills and now I’m roasting! Currently lying without duvet on in a room that usually sits around 14 as the ambient temperature.

I feel like I can’t call in sick but feel utterly shitSad

OP posts:
EBearhug · 02/01/2020 01:24

Sounds like you're actually sick, so no, YANBU.

Rosehip345 · 02/01/2020 01:26

I’d totally be like you and thinking it’d look like a fake, however you actually sound ill so def need a sick day

Fouroutoffour · 02/01/2020 01:27

Sounds like you're pretty ill to me... Are you worried your work will think you're pulling a sickie? They wouldn't have the means to check on you, and if they did they'd find out you are indeed ill. It sucks, but not much you can do! I've been in a situation where I had been trained specifically to do one day's cover for an absent colleague (with much more responsibility than I usually had) and I was soooo ill that day! These things can't be helped 🤷

ilovesooty · 02/01/2020 01:30

You're actually pretty sick by the sound of it. Get well soon.

Philadelphiaria · 02/01/2020 01:31

Doesn't sound like you're well enough to work. Can't be helped. Call in sick. Make sure you call yourself, getting someone else to call in might make your boss suspicious m

VaggieMight · 02/01/2020 01:35

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Savingshoes · 02/01/2020 01:39

Please don't go in, think of your colleagues. I highly doubt they want you to gift them with your lergie as return to work gift.

zaffa · 02/01/2020 01:40

I really wouldn't go in. Appreciate that you may be worried you'd look like a faker, but as the recently pregnant person in the office I'd urge you not to expose anyone else to something that could be serious and have consequences.
Hope you feel better soon OP

Zogtastic · 02/01/2020 07:02

What rotten timing for you. I think it’s highly unlikely people’s first instinct would be to consider pulling a sickie on your first day back to work - why would you? Follow work absence procedure - keep it short and factual - as long winded-ness can accidentally come across as justifying something you think you shouldn’t be doing - it’s rotten timing nothing more than that. If you keep it shrunk to that, people will follow your vibe.

This will feel so much bigger to you than them, as having geared yourself up to go back you’re now having to call in sick and will have to gear yourself up to going back again when you’re better. No one bases their opinion on just one interaction. If you being off sick causes them hassle, then that’s them struggling with having to deal with a hassle nothing personal and something they would have to deal with even if you’d been back from maternity leave for eons.
Hope you feel better soon & good luck with your return from maternity leave.

anotherday4 · 02/01/2020 07:06

Call in, get some rest 😘

GiveHerHellFromUs · 02/01/2020 07:15

I agree that you need to phone in sick. Hope you feel better soon. Maybe on Friday afternoon so you get a couple of extra nice days off before you have start back on Monday x

custardbear · 02/01/2020 07:19

High Temperature and shivers, yes, I'd call in sick too

hopefulhalf · 02/01/2020 07:26

In someways this is better than being sick on a regular day. It is likely to have just been re-orientation. You won't have any responsibiltiies.

Teateaandmoretea · 02/01/2020 07:28

Why is it any more likely to be fake than any other day? Of course yanbu. If you went to work and shared it round that would annoy me. Hope you feel better soon.

BikeRunSki · 02/01/2020 07:29

Call in sick, you sound actually ill!

zzzzzzzx · 02/01/2020 07:39

I can remember going back to work just two days and for the first few weeks either I was ill or DD was ill. I felt bad but it was genuine. If you're ill, you're ill. You'll be back soon enough.

KatherineJaneway · 02/01/2020 07:44

You sound rather ill, call in sick.

Di11y · 02/01/2020 09:21

you wouldn't want to go back and seem really incompetent when you're actually just ill. take it off.

Molly123456 · 02/01/2020 18:29

Depend where you work but HR would request a Dr note after any sort of leave

MrsMonkeyBear · 02/01/2020 18:50

My petrie dishes children gave me HFM before Christmas. I felt like I'd been run over by a bus. Everything including my eyelashes hurt. Thankfully the worst was over in 48hrs (on my days off) but I developed tonsillitis a few days later.

Keep alternating ibuprofen and paracetamol (or cocodamol.) Drink plenty of fluids and sleep/rest. Work can wait.

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