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AIBU: Support Group

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PurBal · 01/01/2020 23:40

I'm a member of a Facebook support group. I don't know these people but we have one thing in common (it's health related).

When I've needed it, it's been a great network and place to go for advice. I try to pay it back by responding to others. But...
I'm am getting increasingly frustrated by the number of people who use it as a place to post random things. Not motivational posts but "I'm thinking moving house" "my relative died" and "I had a fight with my partner / parent / kid and want to vent". To each to their own and clearly some of these people are lonely and in need of a friend.

I also find some of the off topic content insensitive (eg one of the treatment options is a full hysterectomy so not really the place for a pregnancy announcement, and yes it has happened). I messaged the mods a while back but nothing has changed.

So yes, I know I can turn off notifications or only visit the page when I need it but tbh if need support I don't want to see that stuff. There are other forums for the unrelated stuff and the venting (hi mumsnet).

AIBU to expect people within a support group to stay on topic? (Or am I being overly sensitive about it?)

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FireandBrimstone · 02/01/2020 00:10

Ugh. I'd hate this too and had a similar issue with another FB interest group I'm on, that started to become totally spammed with irrelevant posts.
I'd suggest giving it one more go messaging the admins - perhaps suggest, or even volunteer to help draw up, Group Rules that new members could commit to, before they join that asks them to stay on topic? But if you hear nothing from the admins and there's no change, maybe it's time to leave and seek out another group. From what I can see most interest areas have more than one group on FB. Or if there isn't anything else yet, start another one?

Branleuse · 02/01/2020 00:16

This sort of shit makes me leave the facebook boards a lot. The beauty of ordinary message boards is they usually have subforums. Facebook support groups have so much random crap

MamToTeens · 02/01/2020 00:24

I wouldn’t mind random stuff personally but if it’s something like the pregnancy announcement then yes I would be upset.

Danni12 · 02/01/2020 00:27

Yes this would annoy me too. Could you perhaps offer to volunteer as an admin?

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