Feel like I might be over reacting so just putting this out there for a sense check!
Quick(ish) overview, this year many of my older friends (including me) are turning 50. My oldest friend and best mate at school turned 50 yesterday (I’ll call her A).She now lives in Canada and has had a really horrible couple of years. Due to finances and other commitments, I’ve not seen her since my wedding 14 years ago but we are in contact every couple of days. Her friendship is very important to me and at school we were pretty inseparable.
Another very close friend of mine (friend B) who I’ve been friends with for about 30 years has through me become friends over the years with my old school friend. Great as far as I’m concerned as they’ve both brilliant and if my friends like each other, all for the good really! As they were both single when I wasn’t they went on a couple of short holidays together. I was invited but couldn’t go down to small DC and if I’m honest, a very small childish part of me kind of minded but we’re not in the playground!
A couple of months ago, friend B contacted me to say she was planning to pay for plane tickets for friend A to come over. Obviously very kind and generous of her. Friend B has also had a horrible year and been pulled back and forth between a seriously ill patient and small DC. Frankly she’s had little head space. I told her what a great idea this was, agreed to co-host friend A for a week and asked to contribute £100 towards the flight cost. Friend B agreed and said she would make the gift from both of us. As the total cost of the flight would be circa £400, my £100 would only be a quarter of it so I told her to make it mostly from her but partly from me.
Friend B hadn’t mentioned anything further about this and as she’s been running around like a mad woman and cut a lot of commitments due to ill health, I didn’t bring it up with her recently. I saw her 2 weeks ago, no mention of plane tickets.
I’ve just been speaking to Friend A in Canada, very gushy & over the moon with friend Bs very generous gift of return plane tickets to the UK (which haven’t been booked yet).No mention has been made at all to me. I know friend B is all over the place and we’re not kids anymore holding on to our friends like possessions but I feel really put out by this! Just let it go as it’s really not important or gently point it out?