DS and his ex

[Angryordisappointed64]

My DS split with his girlfriend of 6 years about 2 months ago.
They have been seeing each other for sex in my house since the break up and I’m not happy about this.
It just seems wrong that while I’m in the house, he’s inviting her round and having sex with her upstairs. When she comes over, she doesn’t even say hello, they just go straight upstairs for sex. To me, it just feels invasive and inappropriate using my home for this arrangement.
AIBU to put my foot down and say that she’s not allowed to come over as it’s making me uncomfortable?

Well he's 22. Time he found his own place then he can do what he wants with whom he wants.

Is she hoping to get pregnant and leech off your son?

Aah, every girls dream.

My parents were far too relaxed with me. As a result I’ve got low self confidence and self worth. I’m very needy in relationships and have sex far too early. I love my parents dearly but they didn’t give me any relationship boundaries.

Good thing you putting a stop to it. You’ll only get his side of the story and some using may be taking place. For example she might have changed her mind and want to be with him but now he’s loving the no strings set up.

You’re a good caring parent. Keep it up 👍🏻

When she comes over, she doesn’t even say hello, they just go straight upstairs for sex.

Rude. I’d put a stop to that arrangement.

Mind you, I had a mother who wouldn’t have let me entertain gentlemen callers in her house unless I was married, preferably in the Catholic church. And that would include coming back to stay in her house over Christmas with the father of my 8 children.

It does always seem like mothers of boys allow this behaviour. And I'm not sure why.

Ds is 15 and I would never ever be allowing girls to come in to my home for sleep over.
Especially with this behaviour and both being so rude! Your own ds is being disrespectful, why should she be polite when your son is showing such disregard.

You ds needs to work a little harder for his bunk up, tell him to book a b&b or do it in his car.

The sex life of your son is not your business at all, but what's happening in your own home is your business and under all the circumstances uaNbu - at all