MIL

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My MIL has never liked me, whenever we see her she is miserable. AIBU
that wider family need to accept it and stop trying to force the issue of meeting up. Do you have to meet up with your in laws out of duty and all end up pushing food around your plates. I have said to DH, to do as he pleases, but leave me out of it.

Hii I w old are you and do you have young kids? Only asking as if you’re in your fifties, then sod the MIL, but it would be harder if you’re newly engaged type of thing.

I didn't really like my ex's mother but I made the effort for him because there was no 'real problem' she was just exhausting to be around. Felt like pulling teeth trying to talk to her. Very into our business too. I once caught her hiding around the corner trying to listen in on ex and my conversation. It depends on what has happened to make you feel this way. If nothing really I would just do it to please my partner and to keep the peace.
What does your DH think about this situation?

What exactly are you asking? My parents met my exMIL on a few occasions, but certainly didnt socialise continually with her. I can imagine that its lovely if all the parents generally get on well, but theres certainly no expectation of this.

Is it that you dont want to visit your MIL, or is it that your parents are constantly pushing to meet up with her / inviting her for dinner etc?

FIL wants to be part of our family (Myself DH and 2 DC) but MIL is consistently miserable and passive aggressive.