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AIBU?

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To ask my neighbors to keep the noise down?

38 replies

An0nym0us2011 · 31/12/2019 23:21

We live in terrace houses, their garden is pretty much under my son's room (the layout of the properties is quite confusing & hard to describe) but about 11pm and they're blind drunk, listening to mcfly as loud as they're radio can go, dancing in the garden. Just the two on them. Howling along to the song.

At this point they've woken my 2yo up & he gets pretty spooked about loud noises. So iv stuck my head out the kitchen door, took me a good 5 minutes to get their attention and said "hi, sorry do you mind turning it down abit you've woke DS up and scared him abit "

Their response "it's fucking new year's eve, iv had a baby before and it's never bothered them"

In which I couldn't really respond as both where f'ing and blinding.
So I just shit the kitchen door and they're still shouting.
They're usually really nice & always talk to us, dote over my son, so abit confused.

Aibu? Cause in my eyes just because it's NYE doesn't give you the right be inconsiderate.

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LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 31/12/2019 23:25

Hmm bit on the fence really. It is inconsiderate but its NYE and they aren't normally this way.

ChocolateCoins19 · 31/12/2019 23:25

It's NYE!
If. It was a regular thing then I'd say yanbu but it's one night.. No doubt the fireworks will wake toddler at midnight anyway
I'm expecting my toddler to be woken we live a walking route home from a pub that's sold out of tickets plus fireworks.
I'd love to be in bed now but I'm waiting for her to wake.

izzybee55 · 31/12/2019 23:26

YABU

BillywilliamV · 31/12/2019 23:27

Sorry OP, I'm afraid for this one night it really does! Can't you move your son to a different room?

zasknbg · 31/12/2019 23:27

It’s NYE
The only night of the year when it’s reasonable to be noisy at 11 or 12 at night.

CombyourhairNow · 31/12/2019 23:27

As annoying as it is, it’s NYE and a once a year event so I think you’re going to have to suck it up this once.

Any other day of the year mind and I’d be on the blower to the police!

Sparklingbrook · 31/12/2019 23:28

YABU, it's NYE. YY there will be fireworks in half an hour too.

Krazynights34 · 31/12/2019 23:29

Booze can make people aggressive even without meaning too.
I hope your DC gets some sleep.
It’s New Year’s Eve though.. everyone cuts loose sometimes

Bobmcbob · 31/12/2019 23:29

YANBU. NYE or not. You asked politely and only because of the noise upsetting your DS. Their response is just weird if they’re normally nice and chatty to you!

GrandmaSharksDentures · 31/12/2019 23:30

I think you might just have to suck it up as it's unlikely that asking them again will get you anywhere (also echoing it is NYE)
However might be worth chatting to them when they are sober & not hungover and explaining that they frightened your son & swore at you. Hopefully they will have the grace to be embarrassed

Mincepies76 · 31/12/2019 23:30

Yanbu! It'd piss me off. Why can't they go inside. Just because some people want to make a noise and be drunk not everyone wants to hear it!

EskiVodkaCranberry · 31/12/2019 23:33

I think I'd have let it go, it's NYE & although it's annoying having your ds woken up, it's not a big deal.& at least it's mcfly Wink nothing too explicit

Moondancer73 · 31/12/2019 23:34

It's NYE, you're going to have to suck it up this evening

MrsTerryPratchett · 31/12/2019 23:35

It's New Decades Eve. Let it go.

Soffy · 31/12/2019 23:36

You shat on the kitchen door. That was an overreaction. Grin

Honeyroar · 31/12/2019 23:39

I’m a humbug. I live in the middle of nowhere with no neighbours and I’m crap with noise, but even I think you have to put up with it on NYE. The toddler will probably get woken by fireworks soon anyway.

Louise91417 · 31/12/2019 23:39

Two of them, howling to mcflyGrinthink i would have gave them a wide birth as confronting them was never gona end well based on that information aloneGrin

Heismyopendoor · 31/12/2019 23:40

No need for them to talk to you like that and no need to be in the garden either. It’s bloody freezing.

You should clean the shit off your door though.

Patsypie · 31/12/2019 23:43

It's NYE. Tough shite

MarchBorn · 31/12/2019 23:46

YABU. Your world revolves around your child but theirs does not, especially not on NYE.

You’re at risk of creating a ruck that you and your neighbours won’t forget over a night your DS is too young to ever remember.

OopsUpsideYourBed · 31/12/2019 23:47

Shitting the kitchen door was definitely a step too far

Jaxhog · 31/12/2019 23:49

I sympathize. We've had fireworks since 6:30pm. We can't see them, but the noise is loud and scaring the cats.

I know it's NYE, but a little consideration isn't too much to ask for is it?

ILearnedItFromABook · 31/12/2019 23:53

I'd be annoyed even more by their aggressive shouting at you but as others say, it's NYE... It would affect how I felt about the rest of the year, though. Obnoxious. (And being drunk is no excuse. If drinking makes you horrible, don't inflict your drunken self on others.)

ILearnedItFromABook · 31/12/2019 23:53

*how I felt about THEM the rest of the year, I meant...

Elouera · 31/12/2019 23:55

Whilst I find it odd that they're dancing around their garden on their own, and there is no excuse for being so rude, it isn't the norm the for them. I agree with others, its 1 night- maybe they had too much to drink or a drug had an unexpected effect?

I'd certainly mention their rudeness in passing when they are sober though- they may not even remember!