Was I out of order not to wait for her?

[Witchofzog]

This weekend I was meeting my adult ds in a major nearby city for a day out. Mainly a bit of sale shopping, lunch etc. I look forward to these days a lot as we don't live in the same house or county anymore.

When I arrived at the train station there were major signalling problems and the preceding 8-10 trains had been cancelled so as you can imagine it was chaos.

A woman in her 50's, seemingly able bodied and with a small suitcase approached me to tell me the long distance express train due would probably still be running. I knew this but thanked her. She then told me lots of details about her day. During a lull in the conversation it was announced there was a platform alteration and the express train was already there. I told her which platform as she hadn't heard the announcement and then left her to run to the other platform. Which was lucky I did as I had to squeeze on and there was literally no room for anyone else at all. Lots of people were left on the platform and there is no way this woman would have got on the train as all the carriages were the same and I was squashed in the vestibule.

So was I out of order? I feel quite guilty for literally running away but ds had to leave by a certain time due to evening plans and had I have waited I may not have seen him at all. But as far as she knew, she had been the one to inform me about the train in the first place

Had to re-read a few times to get the sense of your AIBU.

Are you asking if YABU for leaving your conversational companion and running in order to catch the train to see your DS?

In my view of course you're not BU, you needed to make that train - nothing rude or wrong about that at all.

I find it odd you’d even question this as you did nothing wrong at all.

Of course not.

Hi @gindaddy. Yes that's exactly it. I am not convinced I even said goodbye. I think I just told her the platform number thrn legged it

Not at all.

You didn't know her BN and she wasn't your responsibility.

Yes, you spoke to the woman, you now owe her a blood debt. You should have carried her on your back until she reached her destination. How can you not know this?

Not at all, what good would it do to have both of you miss the train?

YANBU

Yanbu.

Sounds like a typical trans Pennine day unfortunately. They never lay on enough coaches and I have seen people left on the platform at Sheffield who want to get to Manchester. Trans Pennine Express between Leeds and Manchester are no better.

Voice of unhappy experience here.

It's no wonder that people prefer to drive.

Erm... I’m not quite sure I understand. You felt an obligation to this complete stranger to get on the train together because you’d had a polite conversation? Why?

Piccadilly station is always every person for themselves at rush hour … I suspect they double and triple stack the trains and change the order just for amusement value. Leaving people at the station is a daily occurrence - I would never get home if I waited for every St. Sherlock who wants to tell me something about a journey I already know.

Ohhhh! I thought you'd taken her place on the train or made her miss a train or something.

You're worrying too much she'll have just struck up a conversation with someone else!

Thank you everyone. I am naturally a bit of a people pleaser I think. I was concerned that as far as she thought she had been nice enough to tell me about the train and then I had legged it and got on said train when she didn't. I get trains every day and it really is every person for themselves in rush hour but this was a Saturday and she was a very nice lady

YANBU.

All's fair in love , war and British Transport.

Of course you were not being unreasonable. No doubt she would have done the same had she not been chatting so much she missed the announcement.

I'd have thought you a bit strange waiting for me. Very sweet mind but strange.