To think my friend is in an abusive relationship?

[romark]

I've namechanged.

I'm 21 and so is my friend. As teenagers we were boyfriend and girlfriend for about 2 months but we broke up because we were better off as friends. He's now with a older guy (in his early 30s). Something seems weird about him but not sure what. Anyway yesterday I messaged him to ask if he wanted to go out with me and 2 other friends. He said ok but later he said his boyfriend said he's coming aswell. Me, him and his boyfriend were there before our friends and I went to the toilet. When I came back I saw his boyfriend grabbed his wrists and he told him to let go of him so I don't think he was doing it as a joke.

What do you think? Can I have some advice please?

Also would you get involved or not?

Hard to say on so little information. You need to talk to him (without his boyfriend there), but even if he is, he might not be willing to end the relationship. Being the victim of abuse causes all sorts of mixed emotions, and you put these things down to them having a bad day, suffering from stress, etc.

Not much you can do, other than tell him you'll always be there for him if he needs you.

You need to speak to him alone

I dont know when I'll be able to talk to him alone because since he's been with his boyfriend me and our other 2 friends haven't seen him without his boyfriend. As he always says he's coming.

Anyone else?

Ring him up