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AIBU?

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neighbour hasn’t coughed up

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discoinfernoooo · 31/12/2019 12:21

I live in a row of houses and my neighbour on one side is a gardener.

My neighbour on the other side and I had some work needing done that we agreed to split and half the costs between us.

The work came to £150 and my gardener neighbour carried it out.

We agreed to give the gardener our half separately and I duly gave him £75 on the day that it was completed.

My neighbour still hasn’t paid him and this is now over a month.

My gardener neighbour has been moaning to me that she still hasn’t paid and in the latest conversation he hinted that I should give him the remaining £75.

WWYD here? I’m tempted to tell him to leave me out of it all together. I could give him the other £75 but the principle of the matter is that my other neighbour is a CF who should have paid this guy over a month ago.

WWYD? AIBU to ask him to leave me out of it?

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RJnomore1 · 31/12/2019 12:57

Unless I’ve read this wrong the gardener is on the other side of op - I’d stay well out and let him chase the debt from his other neighbour two doors up.

TidyDancer · 31/12/2019 13:00

I'd stay out of this personally. Or maybe say something to cf neighbour and then stay out of it.

Have they actually said they won't pay?

BIWI · 31/12/2019 13:02

The dispute is between the gardener and your neighbour. If the gardener is just whinging to you about it that's stupid! He needs to go and speak to the neighbour himself

HouseworkAvoider10 · 31/12/2019 13:04

Do not pay for someone else.
Dear lord, no.

misspiggy19 · 31/12/2019 13:07

Another saying don’t pay the gardener. Don’t get involved

AlwaysCheddar · 31/12/2019 13:08

Has the gardener actually invoiced the neighbour directly?

Drum2018 · 31/12/2019 13:09

Not your problem. The gardener agreed to collect the money separately.

Inherdefence · 31/12/2019 13:11

Stay out of it. His problem is with your neighbour. It’s unreasonable of him to involve you in this. X

Inherdefence · 31/12/2019 13:12

Oh no! A kiss snuck in!! Please ignore it.

reginafelangee · 31/12/2019 13:17

He’s done a lot of work for me in the past and now I’m concerned that he won’t do anything again for me because this woman has decided she doesn’t want to pay even though I’ve paid my share

This what you need to weigh up.

Do you want to lose the friendship and future work from this neighbour? For £75?

Balance this against the potential of not getting the £75 back from the other neighbour?

OldEvilOwl · 31/12/2019 13:24

No way would i be paying her share! Get over there and tell her she needs to pay it

DarlingNikita · 31/12/2019 13:25

Do you want to lose the friendship and future work from this neighbour? For £75?

Its the gardener who ought to be weighing this up. Would it be better for him to keep up a relationship with someone who pays or someone who doesn’t?

TheReluctantCountess · 31/12/2019 13:29

If they agreed to pay half, they should pay half...but did they feel railroaded into it? Was the work actually your responsibility and that’s why they don’t want to pay? For example, if it was to remove a hedge which was on your property, but overhanging into your neighbour’s, then I can see why the neighbour wouldn’t want to pay.

CarolinaPink · 31/12/2019 13:32

If he agreed to collect half from each of you then no, you're not liable. As others have said, it would be different if he'd not agreed to do that.

Illberidingshotgun · 31/12/2019 13:37

I wouldn't pay, no. You have paid for your share of the work.

However in order to help sort out this situation and to try and maintain a good relationship with the gardener you could contact the neighbour to remind them that it needs paying. If you have both their emails, great, email the neighbour and copy in the gardener. If not, then send a short letter, again c.c the gardener, and provide them with a copy of the letter. However do point out in the email/letter that the gardener agreed to collect the money separately. Let that be an end to your involvement.

dognamedspot · 31/12/2019 13:44

I'd be inclined to grab the gardener, go together and knock on CF neighbour's door and say "You two need to talk".

looselegs · 31/12/2019 13:49

If the gardener said he was going to collect the payment separately ,then why can't he go and knock on the other neighbours door and ask for it? I don't think it's fair of him to keep moaning at you about it when he only lives a couple of doors away from her!

FruitcakeOfHate · 31/12/2019 14:01

NFW I'd pay. This is how CFers get away with being cunts. Ignore hints, that's PA BS. He agreed to chase the money from neighbour. So he can.

Cherrysoup · 31/12/2019 14:02

Have you spoken to non-paying neighbour about why she hasn’t paid? I would and I’d be very clear with her that she a) agreed and b) are being harassed for the money despite it being her bill to pay. Let gardener neighbour know you have done this. If you don’t feel it appropriate, then tell him to chase his own bloody invoices!

viccat · 31/12/2019 14:09

Have you asked CF neighbour, or reminded her she needs to pay? People do forget this time of year. I'm a freelancer and one of my clients hasn't paid my November invoice yet despite a reminder.

It sounds pretty clear to me that the gardener knew you'd be paying separately and was fine with that, so it's not your responsibility. Plus you're all neighbours and know each other so it's unlikely your CF neighbour is just never going to pay if she lives there and sees you and gardener neighbour regularly...

Puzzledandpissedoff · 31/12/2019 15:07

Actually, I assumed the gardener would have already asked the CF to pay up, but assuming's not always a good idea

Has he done this himself, or is he now hoping you'll save him the bother and sort it out for him?

melj1213 · 31/12/2019 17:14

Has the gardner actually spoken to the CF neighbour?

This last month has been a blur of work/Christmas stuff for me so it's possible that it has been the same and the neighbour has simply forgotten, or put the money to one side and forgotten to actually take it to the neighbour ... either way, the gardener should have spoken to the neighbour first before bringing it to the OP to deal with.

If the gardener has spoken to the neighbour then I dont see the harm in the OP speaking with the neighbour with something like "I was talking to recently and they mentioned that they were still waiting on half of the money for . I told them to come round to sort out with you and said I'd find out when would be the best time to tell them you'll be in?"

The OP is in no way responsible for paying the neighbour's share, especially when the gardener agreed to collect the money from each person separately.

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