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To stay at home NYE?

21 replies

Freckled86 · 31/12/2019 01:32

My best friend is having a small NYE party at hers tomorrow evening & has invited myself and my DS10 along.

There will be her, her 3 kids (9,6,5) her brother, his 3 kids, (9,7,3) her mum & dad and their DD (6) & then us.

ALL of the kids bar my DS and one of her kids have ADHD and they are a nightmare! They fight, they don't listen, they run around screaming, hit each other and I know this sounds awful, but they just do my head in.

My DS also gets annoyed by them, they don't leave him alone, he will quite happily sit next to me on the sofa playing his tablet for a while and and then join in the games when we play them and sing with us and watch the fireworks at midnight but the kids won't allow him to, they pull him about, want to play fight etc but he is a quiet lad and doesn't like all that.

The thought of going is upsetting me. I think I would rather just stay at home alone with my son, get a take away, watch a film, play board games and watch the fire works at midnight then go to bed.

My friend wants me there as we do generally see in the new year together but she will want me to drink and stay the night (Along with everyone else) they are all big drinkers and probably won't go to bed until at least 3am (I won't be able to either as I'l be on the sofa) and then the kids will wake me up at 7!! So New Year's Day will be a write off.
its a 3 mile walk and there will be no taxi's.

I have asked my DS if he wants to go & he says he doesn't mind either way.

I will feel awful on my friend if I don't go & I feel awful saying her kids do my head in, but AIBU to not want to go? Confused

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ChristineKeeler · 31/12/2019 01:34

Feign sickness and stay at home with your DS.

user764329056 · 31/12/2019 01:35

Don’t go, invent a minor illness if necessary, it all sounds too stressful and chaotic for you and your son

SusanneLinder · 31/12/2019 01:37

Nope, stay at home! Sounds a nightmare!

Savingforarainyday · 31/12/2019 01:37

Stay home.
Seriously- it's ok. You can just tell her ( most of) the truth- that you want a quiet night in with your lad.

Merryoldgoat · 31/12/2019 02:17

Definitely stay home.

My DH and I started staying home around 12 years ago. Best thing ever. A few board games, little toast, bed soon after midnight. Perfect.

Purpleartichoke · 31/12/2019 02:34

Stay home and enjoy your evening together.

Topseyt · 31/12/2019 04:12

I wouldn't go. I don't do New Year anyway. Enjoy your evening with your DS.

redcarbluecar · 31/12/2019 04:37

The 3 mile walk alone is enough of a deterrent. Just be honest and tell her you’ve decided to stay at home for a quiet one. You don’t need to pretend to be ill.

xJodiex · 31/12/2019 05:46

OH that sounds shit. I've always avoided that sort of thing. YANBU. Just tell her you're not feeling up to it.

Oblomov20 · 31/12/2019 06:54

Don't go. I Can't be doing with NYE these days.

Shoxfordian · 31/12/2019 07:02

Have you said you'll go? Bit rude to cancel this late

Gwilt160981 · 31/12/2019 07:08

Do what you think is best.

We're staying in, I just bought in some snacks for new years eve to pick at, and play some games.

Fieldofgreycorn · 31/12/2019 07:12

No I’d stay at home. I am in fact. Can’t be forcing myself to do things I don’t want to do anymore.
Sounds like the evening from hell!
I agree say you’re under the weather and won’t be drinking etc.

Mumdiva99 · 31/12/2019 07:13

Why not just go for a couple of hours and then go home? Just say you would love to see her but can't stay this year.

stonebrambleboy · 31/12/2019 07:21

YANBU.
Stay home and enjoy time with your child.
Happy New Year!

Fishcakey · 31/12/2019 07:22

Sounds like hell for both you and DS. Bless him for saying he doesn't mind. Stay home and don't feel remotely bad about it!

PhilCornwall1 · 31/12/2019 07:28

Bugger that! Sound like a nightmare not a party!! I wouldn't go just to please her.

I'd just tell her, thanks for the invite, but we are having a quiet NYE this year. Hopefully you won't get an invite next year! Grin

Awrite · 31/12/2019 07:34

Snowball's chance in hell I'd be going to a NYE's party where I had to sleep on the couch.

Stay home. Don't feel guilty, you will feel great tomorrow.

Awrite · 31/12/2019 07:35

Oh, and perhaps your son is only saying he's not bothered because he thinks you want to go. He can't possibly enjoy what you describe.

PhilCornwall1 · 31/12/2019 07:51

@Awrite totally agree. My more vocal eldest would say that he didn't want to go, but knowing what my youngest was like at 10, even if he didn't want to go, he would have said he didn't mind.

Stay home OP and enjoy your NYE. What you have said you'd rather do, sounds perfect to me.

Freckled86 · 31/12/2019 17:53

Thank you, I'm staying in!
Have made plans with my friend for the 2nd 🥂

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