To de-friend on FBook ?

[Birdgirl67]

Long story short- fell out with friend A (her doing, her nastiness, her untrue accusations). We were both friends with B & C who live very close to A but not near me. Met up with B & C after the fall out, they were fine with me. They then refused to meet up with me again as it was too complicated due to A. But they still met up with A, but not with me. It suggested they had sided with A. I didnt expect them not to see A after the fall out and told them that.
2 years down the line I have not seen or heard from B or C and have no plans to see them. Would IBU to defriend on fbook? What's the point of being friends on fbook ? They had already said 2 years ago that it was best if we didn't meet up for a while because of the fallout (but they were happy to meet with A still) at which point I decided they cant decide to not see me but in 6 months time it would be ok. I'm.angry at them and want them to know it I guess. AIBU ?

What's the point of being friends on fbook?

None.

They can have a nose and see what you're up to I suppose, but tbh they have probably unfollowed you ages ago so probably wouldn't even notice.

OMG who gives a tiny mouse-sized fart, seriously?

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Okay so they basically said "We can't hang out with you because SHE doesn't like you but we like her more so we're sticking with her".

Just delete them from your life.

I de-facebook'd around a year ago because I cannot stand the damn thing. It's full of childish drama, bragging, and people stalking other people and looking at each others kids. Where I used to live someone had saved ALL the pictures of someones kids and had them saved in an album on their computer and it got really messy. Massively creepy.

To me, the point of Facebook is to keep up with friends and acquaintances who you might not necessarily see that often, but who you still care for (or are at least vaguely interested in). That’s why I don’t understand a PP saying she deletes people she hasn’t spoken to in six months - surely that defeats the object?

OP - are you interested in what these ‘friends’ are doing in their lives? Do you want them to know what you’re doing in life? If not, I’d delete them. They’ve made it pretty clear from two years of silence that they’re not that interested in keeping in touch.

However, don’t do this if what you’re looking for is a big reaction. I fear you may not get what you want.

Your 'fuck off' will mean very little I'm afraid, seeing as though two years ago they said it to you first.

I highly doubt they will even notice you've unfriended them.

But by all means, if they keep popping up on your feed and you no longer wish to be reminded of their existence, unfriend them and move on.

How dramatic. No offence but they fucked you off years ago and probably wouldn't even notice if you removed them 🤷‍♀️

That’s 90 seconds, I won’t get back

They ended the friendship and are ignoring you, so they won't care. I'd defriend, as seeing their lives on FB isn't going to make you feel good or bring anything positive to your life - it's just a reminder of people who don't care about you.

I sometimes even block people in this sort of scenario, because I don't want to see them on FB as a friend of a FB friend (ie seeing things they are tagged in with others that I am friends with). I don't know if this is the case here though.

They aren’t even going to notice if you de-friend them.

That’s 90 seconds, I won’t get back

So you wasted another 15 typing that?

YANBU. They're not friends any more, they've proved that by their behaviour. I've been in a similar situation with so-called friends so I can relate.

YABU just for the stupid friend A,B and C business!

For your own sake just delete them and move on. I hope you find better friends soon. I'm sorry they hurt you

I think you're too late. They've already given you a "big fuck off"