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false positive? missed mc? so embarrassed and confused. Trigger warning

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Changedthename · 30/12/2019 23:34

After taking emergency contraception (MAP) I started to bleed a week later, my period wasn't due for 3 weeks after the MAP.

The bleeding which changed in colour and flow continued for two weeks and i was passing small clots with cramping. I had taken the MAP a handful of times over the past decade and never had this happen. I then developed an unusual pain in the tip of my shoulder and a friend suggested I take a test just to be on the safe side as she had similar happen and was having an ectopic pregnancy. Prior to this, pregnancy had never crossed my mind.

I took two cheapo tests expecting a negative result and they came out positive, two pink lines immediately and although light they were undeniable BFP

Worrying, I called 111 to see if I could get an out of hours GP appointment as my doctors surgery had closed. I explained the test results, the pain and symptoms and the call handler told me to go to urgent care at the hospital within two hours.

By this point I'm hysterical and DH has gone white. We concluded that it must have happened prior to the MAP therefore the MAP was ineffective.

DH and I attend as instructed, urine and blood test was taken and 2 hours later the doctor tells us their results are negative and I'm not pregnant so the shoulder pain must be muscular and the bleeding, clots and cramps an early extended period.

I've been told there's no such thing as a false positive so what the hell happened here? I feel so humiliated and confused.

How can I test positive and then hours later negative?

I've been told to see my GP in a week and re-test to be on the safe side, but not to use another home test incase I get another false result

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Colabottles64 · 30/12/2019 23:50

Failed implantation potentially; where you’re pregnant for a brief few days - enough for hcg to raise to give a positive on a test - but the implantation isn’t successful so a period follows, potentially slightly heavier than normal. I had this happen in October - I had a positive normal pregnancy test, then positive digital nest day - but period arrived the next day and in urgent care I tested negative. It was horrible - a major mindf*ck - sad, upsetting, confusing, anger-inducing - but time has helped. Pregnancies, whether long or short, wanted or unwanted, impact everyone differently - Hope you’ve got support and your partner and you can talk it through to move past it xxx

Changedthename · 30/12/2019 23:56

Oh cola thank you. It's so comforting to know I'm not alone but I'm so sorry you experienced the same, it really is a total mind fuck. Had I not had DH there with me as a witness to the initial tests I would have felt like the doctors would think I'm making it all up.

I have never known embarrassment like it.

I do hope you're ok now

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Sparklynails7 · 31/12/2019 00:09

@Colabottles64 that happened to me too.

NearlyGranny · 31/12/2019 00:15

Better safe than sorry! Nothing to be enbarassed about. It could indeed have been a 'resolving' ectopic pregnancy; one that sorted itself (stopped growing).

You've had a nasty shock and a frightening time, so take it easy on yourself.

Colabottles64 · 31/12/2019 00:24

Im so sorry @Changedthename & @sparklynails7 you both had this too

I completely understand the embarrassment - I felt it too - even though I don’t think we had anything to be embarrassed about really. I remember telling the doctor and him saying the tests I took couldn’t have been positive. I was calm and explained rationally and he finally accepted I wasn’t making stuff up - felt so crap that I thought “he might think I’m inventing this”.

I am feeling better now, but the early weeks after it were very difficult - the pregnancy was unplanned but welcome and even though I’d only known for two days, my heart had raced ahead and made space for another baby. I was so angry for weeks and it hurt a lot, but I’ve made peace with it in the last month and feel much better.

I was upset for a while wondering “does this even count as a miscarriage or is it just nothing because it ended so soon”; I decided my loss was a miscarriage - albeit very early - and to be able to name it helped me.

Best to you both ladies x

Sparklynails7 · 31/12/2019 06:42

Thank you @Colabottles64 and I wasn't sure whether to class it as a miscarriage either because it was so early. I was in my final year at university at the time so I probably wasn't ready, but my partner and I were still upset and confused. Also, @Changedthename honestly you did the right thing so do not feel embarrassed. I realised that this happens to many women Flowers

lborgia · 31/12/2019 06:51

You did exactly the right thing getting it checked. Please don't be embarrassed, ignore any unhelpful comments, if it had been ectopic, which certainly the symptoms certainly suggested, you'd be in serious strife right now.

Did they get the bloods back too? I can imagine the urine test being different because NHS tests certainly used to require a much higher level of hormones.

BitConfused28 · 31/12/2019 06:54

It can somtimes be called a chemical pregnancy

I had one a few years ago, dont be embarressed about it, i felt a fool at the time but they were lovely & said it was most likely a chemical pregnancy

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