AIBU to be upset that my boyfriend wants to spend NYE with his friends and not me?

[Fidgety31]

We have spent the last three NYE together . Together 3.5 years
He wants to travel to his home town to spend it with his mates - I’m not invited .
We don’t have a very good relationship right now so I think we should be making more effort to spend it together - whereas his solution is time apart .
I am upset by this . He clearly isn’t .
AIBU to think he should make the effort to spend it with me ?

It’s a bit crap but that doesn’t mean the relationship has ended, it means ask yourself genuinely if his friends come before you, not just on this occasion but generally. If generally it’s you, then that’s ok, it just means it’s crap but he wants to see this one out with his friends. If his friends always come first, I’d say end it now, before kids become involved otherwise life will be rubbish for you.

I wouldn’t want him hanging around when I’m catching up with mates and it’s the same for him I guess

I'm like this as well but NYE is different surely, it's not just normal "catching up".

3/4 nye’s he’s spent with you so why can’t he have one with his friends? If my DO was upset by this then I would call him possessive and controlling, but obviously I don’t know the ins and outs or dynamics of your relationship.

Are his friends in a different town? Can you not each see your friends and then meet up?

Does sound like it may be drawing to an end though.