Neighbours with sensitive hearing

[Fitlarwa]

I've posted a while ago about my neighbours. Apparently they've got a problem with the volume of my TV.
On one side I've got neighbours with small kids and they all go sleep early and all got naps during the day as kids wake up at night and cry for long hours.
The other side neighbours work from home and need total silence.
The walls are paper thin. We can hear kids crying or sneezing. We also hear their TV.
We never do parties and rarely watch TV after 11pm.
If I reduce the volume of my TV I won't hear it!
Do I really need to keep silent because others work from home or go sleep on Saturday at 4pm?
Who's being unreasonable?
Neighbours don't want to hear about any soundproofing of their wall or working wearing headphones.
They demand from me to do something.
On one occasion the police was here and while sitting on my sofa they could hear neighbours bass yet when went to their house couldn't hear my TV even when I put it louder that usually.

When I hear my neighbours TV or kids crying I simply switch radio or TV and then don't focus on their noise.

Anyways, please tell me am I being unreasonable by not wanting to reduce the volume? It would make everyone happy except of me as I wouldn't be able to hear my TV, watch movies, news etc

@StoneofDestiny
Yep that is a fair point and agree with you.

They can stop being selfish bastard's! My old neighbours were lunatics. They phoned the police once when I was doing the washing up 🤔 then phoned the police again when I went to their door to ask why they phoned the police about imaginary noises.
We ended up moving because they harassed us so much. I don't understand what you're doing that isn't normal.
Seems like a normal life to me. If you were blasting Christmas carols at 2am, that's different.
YANBI!

I have sympathy with the as I hate neighbour noise but the fault is with the shirty sound proofing. They need noise cancelling headphones.

Just use your home as you want to, like any reasonable person would. Completely ignore them both and call the police non emergency every single time they harass you. Stop letting them bully you!

The problem is as soon as someone gets a bee in their bonnet about ‘noise’ they will sit there listening for it and wind themselves up even more. Whether the noise is actually unreasonable or not, they will be absolutely certain that it’s you who is the problem. YANBU if you are using the TV normally at sensible volume. I personally wouldn’t do anything to appease people like this. Let them go to the council - they will have to fill in a noise diary about all the times they are being disturbed and for how long. Then IF it progresses further they ( the council ) can put equipment in in THEIR home to measure the volume of the TV to quantify exactly how much disturbance you are supposedly causing and what a horrendous neighbour you are. Only then will you be asked to solve the problem IF you are deemed by them to be too rowdy.

If you’re sensible you are fine !

Fitlarwa,

I don’t agree with what some commenters have said about being mean to your neighbour over this - telling your neighbours to “fuck off” is not kind or helpful

You describe the walls as paper thin, I know you said this metaphorically. You have also mentioned that you can hear kids sneezing, and that you can hear your neighbours TV as well - The sounds coming from your neighbours house are effecting you, as well as the sounds coming from your house are effecting them

You can suggest noise cancelling headphones? Less expensive than sound proofing? Not everyone can afford those things though, doesn’t sound like you live in an area where someone can afford it

My house has thin walls. I can hear every conversation and every foot step. I can even occasionally hear the man peeing🤢.

I only get annoyed when they are being very noisy late at night (slamming doors, yelling, singing). The normal day to day noise can’t be helped.

If your neighbours don’t have the intelligence to understand there will always be noise in an attached house then all you can do is ignore them.

Thank you all for being supportive.
You can imagine that I'm already obsessed and whole my family starts arguing once one of us has TV on.
We simply argue over the volume even if the volume is fine.
Imagine my son having friend and playing. It's obvious I will have my TV a bit louder than usually and I can't isolate myself as I need to watch kids and be able to hear eg knocking to my door.

I went to Boots to check my hearing fearing I might have some hearing loss.
Nope, I'm actually hearing very well so definitely the level of my TV volume did not increased since we've got complaints.
And I believe we do have them as both neighbours became friends and one of them never liked us and apparently they've got a very loudly crying kid and they didn't sleep all night from 3 years!
So any sound during the day annoys them as they are tired having naps.
My TV is on from about 4.30pm to 10pm Monday to Thursday and till 11.30pm from Friday to Saturday