For wanting a break from my baby?

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I had my son in July and since then I’ve loved and spent every second with him, but the past week has been stressful and emotional. Tantrums have started and we’ve had non stop crying every hour of every dsy.

My partner keeps telling me it’s okay to ask for help sometimes and to have a little break. So i have asked my dad and his partner to have my son for a day. But I can’t get over this feeling of guilt, of feeling bad for even wanting it in the first place.

Does this make me a bad mum?

Of course there's nothing wrong with having a break. You don't win any prizes for exhausting yourself unnecessarily. My youngest is only 6 weeks and today I restarted my hobby. I was only out the house 1.5 hours but it was absolute bliss. I love my children with all my heart but they don't get the best of me if they spend every single second with me

You are not a bad mum. Even mum's need a break. I have 2 under 2 and I love them dearly but I have days where I want to run away
My mother and mil have very hands on thank god and always take the little ones for me to have a break and the odd date night with dh.
5 months is an age where its hard to entertain them as baby desperately wants to sit up etc but can't yet. It does get easier. Enjoy your baby free night

Gosh no you are not a bad mum! I have felt like this on many occasions. Sometimes we just need some time to ourselves and that's nothing to be ashamed of. It'll do you the world of good

YANBU to ask for help and want a break. If you feel he would settle with your dad then great - if not could your DP give you a longer break? Does he give you regular lie-ins etc while he looks after the baby.

However, babies don't have tantrums. Your baby is crying because he needs something (even just constant sucking or jiggling).

Take the break. You need that break. Enjoy the break.

(Even if you spend the break thinking and talking about the baby.)

Recognizing when you're worn out and need a break makes you a great mum!

You can't pour from an empty cup
Put your oxygen mask on first
It takes a village to raise a child
Happy mum, happy baby

Keep these sayings in your back pocket.

There are sometimes only mum will do, like when they are poorly or upset, but otherwise it's beneficial to you and bubs to spend a little time with others.

Download the wonder weeks app, it will help you to understand when/why baby is fussy etc. If they seem poorly don't hesitate to check in with GP/HV.

Big love Xx

My 2 suddenly started crying continuously at 4 months. A couple of weeks later their first tooth came through so it could be that. Very tiring stage.

I know exactly how you feel. My in laws look after my baby for a few hours 2-3 times a week so i can go to the gym/catch up on housework etc and have her for a sleepover every other weekend or so. Every time i drop her off, i feel like the worst mum in the world and so so guilty, like i should be spending all of my time with her. But i know im a better parent if i have that time to myself. So relieved to read im not the only one!

I could have written your post ! My DS was born in July. The first few months were super hard with reflux and now when I thought it was over, he is being constantly grumpy ! Could be teeth, could be sleeping as his naps are at times chaotic. I keep being offered help from family and I haven’t used it fully. And yet I would tell you- take a break ! You need it, you deserve it and it’ll make you a better mum for it. Perhaps I should take my own advice.

Also I don’t know if you use the wonder weeks app but my baby is in leap 5 right now and I’m guessing yours will be too as they are both July. Has been fairly accurate so far. Can’t wait for a tooth to come through - symptoms since 9 weeks and really raging red cheeks, teething nappies etc for the last month !

You are doing a great job. Take some time for yourself xx