Advise needed

[ClaireLD]

Hello,

So my step son moved in with us when he was 18yrs old as he wasnt getting on with his mum. He attended college and all was fine, He finished his education and then applied to university, he also has a part time job. We said he needed to start contributing to house hold bills/ food etc , he begrudingly pays us £70 a month .
He started uni, after four months he said he didnt like the course or the professors so he quit. He has spent a year doing nothing apart from his part time job and other odd bits of work . He has said he will apply to go to another university on a different course starting next september. In the mean time he has increased his hours so he is working 5 days a week for the last four months.

I think we need to increase his "contribution" as he has no idea of how much things cost .. But I dont know how to start in showing him to make him understand.
He has the attitude of everyone owes me and he never offers to get anything even a pint of milk . Im worried he will be in the same situation this time next year .

He hasnt even thanked his granparents for gifts for christmas , and he never bought anything for anyone either especially his little brother and sister.

Where do i start ?

I'm thinking that perhaps you don't start, and his Dad does?

What does his dad say? As it’s his son I think he should be leading on any conversations.

Get his father to deal with him.

Oh l could have written this!! Always been very black and white with houserules to my stepson and if he doesn't like it, tough! Having said that we get on really well, l think he likes to know what the boundaries are so there is no confusion or resentment. Could this be why he doesn't get on with his mum?

His dad totally agrees with me .. we are both on the same page so to speak , Stepson is 21 . I think Your right husband needs to start this off ,

Husband starts it.

Personally I'd say zero contribution if in full time education or a full time apprenticeship. 20% of paycheck if in work.