to think my ex is being rude?

[loserlily]

Me and my ex-boyfriend were in a long-distance relationship.

We've just gone through a "rough patch" because of his mental health. There have been talks of him regretting the breakup (which happened about 5 months ago), and we recently went on a date, had sex etc. He told me not to take my things from his house, and to collect them next time we saw each other.

Because of the type of work he does, phone calls are difficult at the minute so we communicate mostly on Whatsapp, until he is home in the new year.

He sent me various looooong messages (literal essays - about 15 of them in one go!) over the Christmas period, which I replied to with similarly long messages within 24 hours, after work. His messages were always enthusiastic, and he was initiating the contact.

I sent my recent replies on Friday night. He read them immediately as they were coming through. He didn't reply. He didn't reply yesterday, but messaged this morning at 6.30am saying "will be replying to your essays later on today!!"

It's now 11.30pm, and he hasn't replied. I am being taken for a mug aren't I?

AIBU to think he's being really rude? Or is he just busy? Or am I just a complete twat being taken for a mug again?

He has acknowledged that he will reply.
Tbh this kind of thing wouldn't bother me considering you're not actually dating.
If you feel like you're being taken for a mug then stop contact.

Is he genuinely busy? Do you really want to be back in a relationship with him? Surely he’s an ex for good reason?

When you say he's back in the NY is that for good? I think it's somewhat OK that he hasn't replied yet as long as he does eventually because he might actually be busy and need time to compose a proper response. Do you feel strung along in general? You talk about him "possibly regretting" the breakup and him telling you when to pick stuff up a bit. It sounds like you're waiting around for him a bit too much.

Why does it matter? Really l don't think you should be in contact with this person, it's messing with your head.

@Cherrysoup

He is a generally busy person, so I am assume he will have been busy today. I guess one of the reasons our relationship became so strained was because he was juggling quite a lot of stuff (work, family, studying etc).

I think I am just a bit put off because he took the time to tell me he would be replying today ... but he hasn't. It would have been less annoying if he just replied whenever without saying it would be today.

I know that doesn't make sense.

I also have in the back of my mind that we normally have these conversations and reply to each other within the day... but as you say @PixieDustt we're not dating anymore.

I guess I am scared he is talking to someone else, although, he told me unprompted that he wasn't dating/couldn't start to date as he wasn't over me, and I guess we are still contacting a lot - maybe just a bit different from being in a relationship.

@ALLMYSmellySocks

No, I don't feel strung along generally. This is the first time I have been a bit anxious about the situation. We slept together 3 weeks ago now, and I haven't really thought about what will happen next, what it means, what is going to happen etc., until maybe now? It's the first weekend I have had off in a while so I think the time has gone more slowly waiting for a reply.

I've had a good fair share of dickhead exes who have used me for sex, promising this, that and the other, saying all the right things etc., but I would put money on this not being my ex.