Boyfriend is a bigger drinker than me... making me feel boring

[Petals23]

Today my boyfriend drank about 2 bottles of wine over the course of the day, I drank a glass and a half of prosecco. His family are all big drinkers and I'm not. He has a big family and we've had a couple of nights out with some of them already and wants to arrange more with the others. I'm just not interested in staying out all hours in pubs. I do like a quiet drink and meals out, but today he said something and now I feel he thinks I'm boring. Has anyone else been in this situation?

2 bottles is quite a lot. Does he drink that amount regularly? Its not really something to be proud of. What did he say?

That is a lot

That’s quite a big problem in my eyes if one drinks and one doesn’t. Your both got such different outlooks

What did he say?

It's mean of him to make you feel boring, but maybe you are reading too much into a casual comment / observation? How long have you been together? Is he always like this or just at Christmas?

Have you been together long?
Don't ever feel pressured by someone else's drinking habits.

That's 20 units. That's quite a lot. That's what a lot of people drink to get purposely drunk not just a few drinks with a meal. Most people I know would be very drunk on that. I don't think its you that has an issue here

He drank a WEEK’S worth of alcohol in one sitting and you’re the boring one? I can’t imagine anything more tedious than sitting with him!

Me and my DH have very different drinking habits. He is a standard binge drinker (goes out once/twice a month and gets sloshed) I'm a glass of wine with dinner/sometimes a bit more on a Saturday. He would never drink in the house, I only really drink in the house.

Because of this we rarely actually have to really see each other when drunk (as he is out with his mates and I don't really get 'drunk').

This works for us, it just depends if you mind seeing him drunk as I know my DH irritates me when I've been sober. Basically what I'm trying to say is you aren't boring, and don't let it bother you, unless a drunk partner makes you feel unhappy then you just do you!

I had a similar situation with my ex and it is the main reason he is now my ex. We became too different and I couldn’t make myself someone who I am not. Christmas day for him and his family was a big drinking sesh, for me it was about family and chilling out.

We're together 3 years. He's not an alcoholic and doesn't drink during the week when working but he'd drink most weekends. He said he used to drink much more when younger. With me he drinks a moderate amount but if we go visit any of his family we're stuck there for hours while bottle after bottle of wine is opened. I'm late 40s now and while I enjoy a couple of drinks, this is just not me. I'm also very introverted where he's more outgoing and likes a good party!

Does is behaviour change when he's had a bit to drink? Either in general or towards you? I think that would be the deciding factor for me.

I'm in a fairly new relationship and I've just decided to stop drinking. I drank A LOT with my ex and I don't want to go down that path again and for personal reasons I decided to stop. Even before this I noticed my partner is unbearable drunk. Extremely annoying, a real show off when he's a fairly quiet lovely person when sober. When I stopped drinking and he carried on I couldn't hack it so I've told me if he wants to drink it won't be around me. I've got no problem with him going on nights out etc the only thing is he doesn't really have mates of his own was doing all that with me and my mates.

I'm playing it by ear tbh...