...to walk away from friend.

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Backstory - BF had an abusive relationship and 2 DC with ex husband. Thankfully, they divorced and she seemed much happier and together until she met a much younger man and in a very short period of time, remarried and had another DC. All seemed ok until 2 months ago when we were at a 'do' with friends.Her husband got extremely drunk and hit me hard enough to leave a mark and was verbally abusive out of eyesight of others. I obviously left the event immediately and told my BF what had happened a few days later.

Since then BF has completely ignored me. I met up with BF just before xmas and she was very rude, defensive and actually swung at me! She is a primary school teacher. From talking to another friend since, it has come to light that this man sexually assaulted her a year ago but she did not tell anyone. AIBU to walk away from BF? She obviously has ended up in another relationship with an abusive twunt - I still care for her and her DC are my godchildren but she will not hear anything against him.

I would try and support your friend. She will need you when it all comes apart. Your relationship will probably change while she is with him - especially with what has happened already. But let her know you are always there for her.

In the meantime don't waste your time trying to tell her how awful he is - she is going to need to work that out herself.

I'd find out who the safeguarding lead was at the school she works at, and alert them to the incidents you mention. Her safety is at risk.
Would also try to do the same for her children by reporting to their school/nursery as her partner's behaviour is cause for concern.

WTF! Why should the OP give a single fuck about her so-called friend! It's one thing to be supportive of someone who is being abused but quite another thing when this supposed friend not only does nothing when OP got violently assaulted by her DH but also turned violent towards her. There is a point when you have to walk away. This person has stopped being a victim and has become an abuser herself.

He sounds abusive and is currently isolating her from everyone that's close to her.

You need to step away for your own safety but send her a final message stating your concerns. Tell her you need to protect yourself right now, but that you will always be there for her if she ever needs you. Tell her to be careful. He sounds awful

I have spoken to the safeguarding lead at the school so they are aware that the dad been abusive towards 2 women.
As far as BF goes, she has cut all contact with me and blocked all messages since I told her that I had reported her DH for assault on the recommendation of a solicitor after the incident.

Fuck that!
Step away OP, for your own safety.
She's not stupid and she knows where you are if she really needs you.

Then it looks as though you have done all you could. No point in continuing to try to contact her any further.