To not bother buying my partner any new clothes anymore.

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He doesn’t buy his own clothes ever. Not even sure he knows his size. I generally buy him some clothes for birthday and christmas or sometimes his mum gives him birthday money and I’ll go shopping for him!! I do not mind buying the clothes..

I’m not sure if I sound like a control freak but he keeps wrecking it all. I tell him all his work clothes are folded in wardrobe and his best clothes are hung up. But it doesn’t seem to go in and he picks out his best clothes for work so newer clothes come home with holes, oil, other work related things on them, glue etc etc. It’s getting to the point I have to lay out his clothes for him.

Also he doesn’t look after them generally. Earlier I asked if he could clean a patch of mould on the wall (I have a stinking cold and cough so best I don’t do it). I reminded him to take his hoody off (an expensive hoody) but he didn’t so now his hoody is covered in bleach yet I told him to bloody take it off.

He’ll wear his best jeans and trainers out gardening and they’ll be covered in mud and grass. Which often comes out but not always.

Aibu to be annoyed by this or am I being a control freak? He hasn’t done a single load of laundry since we moved in together 6 years ago!

God this is cringe worthy pathetic! Stop enabling him.

Did he manage to sort out his own clothes before he lived with you?

I would stop buying your DH’s clothes and whatever about laundering them, I certainly wouldn’t be putting them away for him. The thoughts of laying out hid clothes beggars is almost beyond comprehension.

Let him look after himself. If he chooses to destroy his clothes, so what. You take care of what you wear and what your children and let him dress himself, even if he wears dirty or worn clothes.

OH is very similar. The difference is I rarely buy him clothes and it's his own business if he ruins the stuff he has/buys. Anything completely wrecked goes in the bin.
I honestly don't give a shit.

Put your blinkers on OP. Just stop. It sounds like he is being awkward on purpose. Refuse to see it. Let this adult make his own choices. Don't put a penny of your money or a moment of your time on this enabling. Step back. Disengage. Break this bad habit you have.

Are you married to a two-year old? Choosing his outfits and laying them out fir him?

How on earth do any of you with DPs like this ever find them attractive enough to have sex with? And I suspect that if they're this careless about their clothes then they are probably equally careless about their personal hygiene (not envy). Yuck. Yuck yuck yuck. I think you all need to raise your standards. A partner who can't dress himself appropriately (ie in clean clothes) at the very minimum is not showing his partner/family any respect.

He gets extra brownie points for not generating too much washing. Much more exasperating when he changed tops/outfits three times a day and they all ended up in the wash.

How would any of us feel if our DHs dictated what we wore?

I cannot believe a grown adult would choose clothes for their spouse. I have no interest at all in what my DH wears (thankfully he does at least wash his clothes).

I don't understand how people end up with men like this. But then I never understand those women who buy their husband's clothes. If roles were reversed and a man was buying all his wife's clothes, everyone would freak out and call him controlling.

Personally I'd let him walk round in rags until the penny dropped. And if the penny never dropped, we would certainly have never had sex let alone move in together. Why do women (including the mothers!) insist on enabling these menchildren? Bizarre.

My mother in law uses to periodically ask me if my husband needs any new suits for work. He has never worn a suit to work, he does a technical job and wears jeans and even if he did wear a suit I don't know why his mum and I need to discuss it.

I don't buy him clothes, he doesn't buy me clothes. We both choose and wear what we want as we're adults.

NerrSnerr my MIL text me before Christmas to say she was thinking of getting DH a particular item of clothing for Christmas and asked if I was ok with him wearing it.
WTAF?! Told her I have zero input into what he wears, with him being 36 and all.