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lyne123 · 29/12/2019 12:20

Is it too early to ask you about past successful NYR and how it positively changed your life? I am trying to have some realistic and motivating goals to start 2020.
For info last year mine were read 6 books and watch less TV both failed.
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ScotsinOz · 29/12/2019 12:47

Not a NYR, however I read something recently that says to achieve your goal you need to be positive about it. It gave an example of being on a diet - instead of thinking “I can’t eat that as I’m on a diet”, think “I choose not to have that to achieve my goal” - reinforcing you are making a choice and not denying yourself. This could be applied to anything though. Good luck!

IndigoHexagon · 29/12/2019 20:26

I stopped smoking at midnight on NYE/day 2004. I went completely cold turkey (aided by an awful hangover). I thought of it as a competition between me and a giant cigarette that was taunting me to fail. I haven’t had so much as a drag since. It helped that I was pregnant but the end of that January!

lyne123 · 30/12/2019 00:21

Thanks for the advice Scotsinoz! Well done for managing giving up smoking Indigo. I did quit smoking years ago but wasn't on 1st of January 😊.

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Sparklesocks · 30/12/2019 00:50

At the start of 2019 I made a resolution to find a new job by September as my then office was relocating to a new site which would’ve doubled my commute. Managed to find a new one by the end of April!
This year I want to buy my first home, so I’m hoping I succeed this time too!

LucyAutumn · 30/12/2019 01:25

I made a resolution last year to focus on my mental health. I went to counselling, had therapy, finally (after many years of struggling) received a diagnosis for an anxiety disorder and have started taking some light medication to help, and have cut out an abusive relation.

I feel much better for it Crown Smile

Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 30/12/2019 01:33

In 1999 I resolved to leave my unhappy relationship, get a new job, take up a random hobby (fencing) and be happy. I managed all 4.

Since then I have not made NY resolutions.

20 years on I'm intending to prioritise my mental health, and not to fly.

Disquieted1 · 30/12/2019 01:45
  1. I was 8 grand in debt (laughable now, but at the time it felt like a lot) and my career was going nowhere. I resolved to spend the next two years sorting my life out. I would make work my friend and not my enemy. I took work seriously, stopped going out every night, and after two years I'd been promoted twice, cleared my debts and set myself up for the future.
uncomfortablydumb53 · 30/12/2019 03:56

I quit smoking last New Years Eve,after a 25 year 14 daily habit

waggydog21 · 30/12/2019 04:12

I wanted to write more and be more creative generally this time last year - I’m just about to complete a 150,000 word novel and I’ve been in two plays. It’s really improved my mental health and self confidence, but it took me time to realise that I could do it, and the only thing stopping me was myself. I also lost a stone this year which I’ve always wanted to do but it was once I stopped thinking about it and berating myself that it happened.

Namechangedtoprotect · 30/12/2019 04:59

I wanted to lose weight and sort my health out. Started a year ago. I'm over a stone lighter so have a normal bmi and am healthier then I was. However I have developed arthritis in my foot so my dream of mountain climbing may need to be shelved.

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