Hi, just want some advice from anyone who has been through similar.
Ex left 6 months ago, after a ten year relationship, stating family life weren't for him. He moved back into his Mum's box room originally. It was arranged that he would have our three children Thursday evenings and Sunday from 9am til 6pm.
He met a new partner 8 weeks ago, has already against my wishes, when the relationship is so new, introduced her and her children to our children, leaving my 7 yo devastated and crying in school, leading her needing pastoral care. This was because the first four months he went until he met her, he kept implying to me and the kids that he wanted to come back home.He has already moved in with her and her two children.
On the days he does have the children, he turns up 40 minutes late and returns them early. He turns up to mine with the eldest two children's car seats but fails to bring our three year olds which means most Sundays he tell me he can't take him and I have to keep hold of him. Meaning I literally never get a break. During his time on the sunday he drives to his Mum's and drops the children off there and disappears for hours at a time. Then to top off he has cancelled coming to pick them up last minute as he wants to go out and drink the night before and is too hungover to have them on the Sunday. The last time he did this was boxing day, he text me to tell me he couldn't have the children as planned on Friday (I had swapped a sunday to a friday as I needed to work). I rang him and said if he didn't come for the children on Friday as planned so I could work, I would withdraw contact and he would have to take me to court and then we can get it in writing his dates and times so he couldn't keep letting me or them down. He chose the latter. I haven't heard from him since.
I just don't know how best to deal with it at all, but yesterday was the final straw as I had to ring in work sick to look after the children. I don't get paid for being sick either, meaning we will struggle for money now as a result. He walked away from family life, yet he still has three kids he should be equally responsible for! Any advice at all I would be grateful for! Thankyou xx