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He doesn’t care or I’m expecting too much?

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IntoTheWilderness · 28/12/2019 19:38

Been seeing someone for a couple of months. Didn’t see him over Christmas because we were with respective families. We sent a few texts Christmas morning, haven’t spoken again until today.

I don’t expect contact everyday because it’s still really new so haven’t been worried about not talking for a couple of days.

When we spoke today he said his Nan had been in a car crash Christmas Day. I can imagine it must have been awful for her and him, asked how she was, how he had been, if I could do anything etc.

My AIBU is that he never asked me how I was, am I wrong for thinking he doesn’t really care about me? I understand he’s had other things on his mind and the people he’s worrying about now have been in his life a lot longer than I have. However this is the first Christmas since my grandad died a few months ago. I lost my dad a few years ago and have found Christmas hard ever since. He knows this because we’ve spoken about it before. Am I being selfish feeling upset that he hasn’t asked me how I’ve been when he’s being going through a hard time himself?

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GlitteryGracie · 28/12/2019 19:43

I think at this point in time you can cut him some slack. He's in the middle of something quite traumatic so didn't have the time or the headspace to be asking questions and supporting you just now. I'd be there for him but just be aware of it becoming a pattern in the future, time will tell.

MildDrPepperAddiction · 28/12/2019 19:45

I think you're being a small bit selfish tbh (and I to am missing a close relative for the first time this Christmas).

He is preoccupied and worried. Cut him some slack.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 28/12/2019 19:45

How is his nan?

I'd also cut him some slack,I remember one of my grandparents being in an accident and completely forgetting other things. It wasn't because I didn't care, my mind just had so much going on.

MildDrPepperAddiction · 28/12/2019 19:45


FabbyChix · 28/12/2019 19:46

It’s a man thing

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