My Dad has a progressive disease & was living on his own in a 2 bed, 1 bath flat about an 2 hour drive away from myself & my brother.
I have 2 older brothers & 1/2 twin sisters who are 20 years younger.
He last saw his consultant 2 weeks ago & was told he would probably need full time care in 2 years time.
I set up a WhatsApp group about 5 months ago so everyone was aware of what was going on. My SIL & I have claimed for additional benefits for him & we are both actively dealing with the 2 different local councils to try to arrange for him to be able to move to our location.
We don’t mind doing this but it does take a huge amount of time just to speak to the right person !
My brother has taken the days off to go to the consultant appts with my Dad just to make sure we are getting the correct information & we can all act accordingly.
We post all info in the WhatsApp group.
4 weeks ago my Dad sent me a message saying 1/2 sister had given notice in on her flat in London & was moving in with him & what did I think ? I told him it was the most stupid thing I’d heard !
Nothing posted in WhatsApp about her plans.
She’s been sacked from her job & cant pay her rent. Anyway she’s moved in.
She posted all over IG about how she is so proud of the woman she has become by fulfilling her destiny to care for her Dad !
Poor Dad has fallen for it hook, line & sinker.
She has completely jeopardised his chances of moving closer.
Fast forward to Boxing Day - as a family we stopped giving each other presents years ago due to finances mainly.
Dad gives me 3 presents & DSis pipes up ‘we, oh should I say Daddy, tailored all the hampers to you individually’ - no he fucking did not as I know he’d never buy me a bottle of Bollinger Champagne !
The week she moved in my Dad had his consultant appt which she was supposed to take him to but she missed her train back from friends!
He will feel caught between a rock & a hard place.
I feel awful but I’ve stopped ringing him as often as I did because all I hear is her chirping in the background.
He doesn’t have much - certainly not enough to be buying Bollinger champagne & I’m quite worried for him.
Before anyone suggests I can’t have him live with me because I live in 1 room in a shared house & my brother lives in 1 bed house with only an upstairs toilet which my Dad would not be able to negotiate which is why we trying to get council accommodation.