We have sorted our wedding in the last few weeks. Not a big deal or a big fuss made but dp mentioned it at a gathering. Somebody asked when it would be and he said we would send invites out in the next few weeks and the details will all be on them then.
The reason for this is that dp,s ex can be very difficult & controlling and we would like to make sure date is ok with her for his dc to be able to come first before we tell anybody else and she finds out second hand. This could take a few weeks as she can be very "no I'm refusing that unless you do this" and it takes a lot of negotiation. But we would like that arranged first it just feels right.
One of his sisters has asked him for all of the information and he said he will get an invite to her asap but she keeps pushing and pushing saying she won't be able to get time off ect. It's not an imminent wedding by any means so waiting a few weeks to find out won't make any difference. AIBU In not telling her the date until we have sorted with his ex or is she for pushing? She's quite close with the ex and I don't want her to find out like that. For what it's worth we have been engaged for 4 years and have our own child together too.