I have a friend who is notoriously tricky to make plans with. We try to catch up once a month. When we do actually meet up, she's great company and we have a really good time, she's also helped us as a family through some difficult times in the past so I don't really want to end the friendship or stop seeing her, BUT lately it is getting ridiculous.
In the summer we had a theatre trip booked, she cancelled in the week before. She did seem genuinely apologetic and disappointed, she still paid for her ticket and I still went and had a lovely time.
Met up in September and October without incident.
Last month we had plans for coffee, she cancelled on the day. Frustrating but I know her sister had been ill so thought fair enough, maybe she was going to help out with her.
We made plans to meet yesterday, she texted 2 hours beforehand asking if we could shift to today, as she was working online from home and no one else was logged in. I do already have plans for today but should be free for the afternoon so I thought ok, just a quick catch up for an hour...she's just text again asking 'can I let you know half an hour beforehand, might not be available' FFS. Half an hour's notice once she's decided if she feels like it?
She's taking the piss a bit isn't she? I'm starting to wonder if she actually just has better offers coming in and I'm the one who's getting pushed down the list. To me, it sends a message of 'my time is more important than yours, it doesn't matter if I leave you hanging' as if she doesn't care that I'm making an effort to see her.
WIBU to say no, if she's not sure then we can just arrange for the New Year...and then make no effort to actually make new plans? I hope that eventually she'll be the one to suggest something, because as I say, I do really enjoy her company, but I'm getting fed up of her repeatedly backing out of what we've arranged.