Am I being unreasonable?

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I am feeling upset with my partner and his son right now that I have gone quiet on them. We were invited to spend Christmas with my sister and her family. My brother's kids were also there. I have been with my partner for close to two years now and this is the first Christmas with my family. We were invited to stay the night at my sister's so we could relax, drink and party without having to rush home. We had planned to go to my partner's mum on Boxing Day so staying over at my sister's was a good option. So come Christmas Day, we headed to my sister's, she had invited some of her friends for Christmas dinner. My sister & her husband really tried hard to make sure everyone is made to feel comfortable and welcome.

In the afternoon, my sister's friend and kids played music for us, it was great to see the kids get into it, it was fun. Then afterwards, my sister played music too from her selection on YouTube for everyone to enjoy, she then asked my partner what music he enjoys, he never really told her. She also asked my partner's son the same question but he also didn't say so she went through some artists but they just said no they didn't like those artists. But the friend's kids requested some songs which were played. Come Boxing Day, she made brunch and we left for partner's mum's place at around midday. Today, my partner and his son were telling his mum about Christmas with my sister and mentioned how they were tortured with the crap music & how only thick people listen to such ridiculous music. His son spent the whole day avoiding the other kids and after we had left my sister's, he said how they were very different in their mental state and how the other kids were too thick that he couldn't see himself socialising with them. To be honest, am upset and feel like I will never take them to my family again.

Am I overreacting?

What a horrible, ungrateful man - he called your family thick?

He certainly doesn't sound like a keeper, OP.

At least you know now - often, extended family meet for the first time at the wedding, so thank your lucky stars this all came out now!

To be fair having to listen to bad music can be really torturous and they didn't call anyone thick to their face. So I wouldn't say it was a lost cause as they sat through it all politely.

I wonder what 'vibe' your sister and her husband got from your partner and his son...

Wow. Glad you enjoyed at the time OP and appreciated the effort made.

Your partner and little Lord Fauntleroy can stay home alone next year. If you still know them by then.

I did tell them both how i felt at the time and I was asked if he wasn't allowed to have an opinion and also if he isn't allowed to share it. After me trying to tell him that it was rude of them to think their music is what everybody should listen to is just stupid. Also told them I don't particularly share the same taste in music & film as them but I sit through them and never complain. Also told them that everything doesn't revolve around them, that we all have different tastes and preferences and that that should be respected. Keeping quiet is because am still upset and don't feel like I want to talk to them at the moment. We just returned to our home this evening and I haven't been social.

In fact I told them if that's how they feel about people's choices, they shouldn't bother to go at all. I get to go with him to visit his family & we go from his mum's, to his dad's, to his brother's, to his aunt and uncle...........and am always polite regardless........... So was shocked that they would say all that to my face, that hurt.