Names for Step Parent Relationship to DC

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That title is about as clear as mud, apologies! Also I know IABU as I'm posting here for traffic

Currently pg with my first child and starting to think about what he will call our parents and I am a bit stuck on what to suggest for dp step mum. She is honestly lovely and we are both keen for her to have an active role in our DC life (if she wants to of course)

Is there a 'go to' name for step grand parents? I really don't want to offend dp mum or make his step mum feel uncomfortable.

Probably overthinking this but just want everyone to be happy! Any suggestions will be most welcome!

TIA!

We address my sm and sd as nan/grandad but my dh's mums partner we call by name as the situation is a complicated one

MIL is Granny, sometimes + name
StepFil is Grandpa, sometimes + name (she sees them the most).

DM is Nana-name
DF is Grandad-name

FIL is Grandpa-name (she's met him a handful of times)
StepMIL is just her name (met her once)

MILs mum is Great-Granny-name

StepFILs parents are Nana-name and Grandpa-name.

MIL and FIL split when DH had let home so neither step parent has ever parented him (plus stepFIL is not old enough to be his dad!)

StepFIL never had his own children as he met MIL and she was done, but he adores kids so it's lovely for him to be involved. Him being young-ish does lead to a lot of people assuming he's DDs dad / my partner though.

We're waiting to see how it pans out, but I don't really have a relationship with my SD and DSGC2B will already have two perfect good biological grandmothers.

DH’s dad is remarried but his wife has never been a step-mum (long story short: she was the OW who caused the breakup of DH’s parent’s marriage when he was 15, he didn’t meet her until he was 28). They are just known as Grandad and “Jenny” (Not her real name).

My Mum's DH is Papa. My dad is Grandad and it never felt a particularly big deal, he just happened to become Papa. I think my Dad likes being the only Grandad, though.

We have 4.

My Nan - 'Nanny X'
My SM (never grew up with her, we aren't close at all, but my DC love her so I go with it) - 'Nanny'
My adoptive DM - 'Nana'
DHs DM - 'Granny'

My step mom is nanny. Wouldn't have had it any other way but we are very close.

We let everyone pick their own name, husband's dad and step-mum were already known as Granny and Grumpy so are to our son too. Husband's Mum and her boyfriend are Grandma Claire and Ian (not their names!) My mum and her husband (who she met and married when I was an adult) are Nanny and Grandad-'hobby' (thing everyone associates with him) . My dad and his girlfriend are Grandad and Sue (obviously not Sue!)
Trying to keep that all straight for Christmas /mothers day cards etc is some effort!

We let them all choose their own names resulting in:
Nanny X - my grandmother, called this for 30 years already
Granny - my mum, sees DD several times a week
Nanna First Name - MIL, sees her maybe 6 times a year
Nanna First Name - FIL’s wife, never a ‘stepmother’ to DH, sees DD 3 times a year
Nanna First Name - FIL’s wife‘s mother

everyone seems happy enough. DD is not confused.

My mum and dad are just granny/grandad
DC's step grandparents are granny [name] and grandad [name]
DC's other bio grandparents are nanny/pops.

There's no go-to name, ime grandparents, step or biological, choose their own name regardless of what you want them to be called!

My granda remarried before i was born. Me and my siblings call her nanny. She is my grandma as far as I'm concerned. I was very lucky to grow up with 3 grandma's. Thats how I seen it anyways and didn't know any different