have I done right ?

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so my kids Step Aunty who they love stopped coming to visit about a year ago . Her husband comes on his own , i dont know if he tells her .
I had a. emotional affair ( fb contact with'first love' blah blah cliched story that thankfully ended but caused huge distress / depression that was a follow on from depression after my children were born and other life exp. my husband supportive and patient , he loves me very much .
So Aunty told my kids she suspected i was having an affair , Ive got furious shouted down the phone , she denied it , ive blocked her . Have i done the right thing ?
My husband and kids will be very sad that she is not in their life anymore.
I just think she should have spoken to me not my kids ? I feel an overwhelming desire to protect what is most dear to me, my kids and husband, but also feel guilty that they will not have her on their life now.
your views pls , Yes know I'm far from perfect .
But does anyone have the right to judge.?

Ps just want to say again you're doing great for having healed your relationship and learning lessons from it all (including who your friends really are). 💙💚💛

Well to be honest I would probably judge you , emotional affairs can hurt the cheated on partner just as much if not more than physical affairs, and I would hate to see my friend/stepbrother hurt in that way. However although I might have discussed it with him, I wouldn't have told your children. Also from what you say it doesn't sound as though it's your choice to stay in touch or not- you say she's made it clear that she's there for your family not you ?
I see you say you've learned your lesson re the repercussions of emotional affairs - were you really that unaware of how your behaviour would impact on the wider family once known?

Stop calling her your children’s step auntie. It’s weird and not at all accurate.

Your husband’s female friend interfered in your marriage and spoke to your children in a way that was outrageously cruel.

It’s none of this woman’s business whether or not you had an affair.

She was nasty to your children therefore you and your husband should cut her off.

Thankyou Dolly mixture
I'm sad that I've caused all this, but she clearly isnt a friend.
really appreciate the support , its tough trying to understand it all .
but their are people in our life who have been supportive throughout , without judging or taking sides .
shone a light on them for sure .