to feel this way?

[Yellowcakestand]

Feeling slightly selfish here.
Had a message last night from someone I went to school with to ask for info on my ex. He is with this guys ex partner, they have a child together. So I do totally understand why he is asking, I would want to know if I were him too.
Currently undergoing a section 7 for contact due to DV in relationship which our son was in the middle of. Ex hasn't seen our son for a few years now.
I gave a few bare details, also stating I didn't want to get involved as didn't want any comeback as restraining order is due to come to end end soon. Felt torn tbh.
I just felt it put a dampener on Boxing day as was having a lovely time and hardly gave him a moments thought as haven't heard from him or his family over the festive period, then I had a sleepless night worrying that he would find out and turn up.

You did the right thing.

If he suddenly appears going ballistic, he's proven that contact would be inappropriate and will probably give grounds for a new non mol, keeping him out of your life for a further period. Chances are that he'd do that as soon as the existing order comes to an end or immediately after getting some contact. In any case, anytime there are issues in a current relationship, it's likely that an abuser will suddenly take it upon themselves to have a go at the ex, whether they know if there's been any communication or not.

At least knowing that there are issues - and there's a chance that the person who contacted you has already seen or heard things that aroused his suspicions, so you aren't adding new information, you're confirming what he already knew or suspected - means that there is somebody else looking out for the latest victim and child. And might be able/willing to provide evidence that will enable you to continue to protect yourself and your DC.

Abuse, violence and coercion all thrive, as you know, on secrecy and denials, lies and half truths.

It's shit that it happened at this time of year, but perhaps there's something happened that has rung alarm bells, so he didn't have a choice about the timing.

Thank you.
Feeling bad as part of me wanted to ignore the message completely.
The other part thought, no I need to provide something as there is a child involved and a woman who may have no clue.
If I knew then what I know now from his hx I would never have gone through what I did.
Good point about the father of the child being aware and alert to it. I just don't want it be an issue for me and my son if it gets out I was asked for info. Not at all interested in ex relationships, just want to be left alone.