Re long, long opening posts

[Misscromwellrocks]

I seem to click out of nearly every second thread I open nowadays because of the lengthy opening post going into micro level details about whatever situation the OP is describing.

I don't remember, when I first joined mumsnet, seeing so many overly long first posts. Aibu to find them off putting and often very confusing?

Ah yes and when they start off with "I'm no psychologist/psychiatrist/counsellor/doctor but..." and then off they go!

Why do you claim I'm "defensive"? I don't write as the OP suggested

Your tone on many of the threads I see you on.

The thing is, how many chirpy little posters have attacked an OP later down a thread for revealing information that they should have (in MN theory) included in their first post?
That’s true, I agree.
I think that’s all the more reason for MN to finally create a ‘see OP’s posts’ button on threads!! A girl can dream

Gosh there was one biblical one yesterday that went on and on and on. I love reading, but just got bored. Went to the comments and invariable they all started with ? I'm sorry OP I couldn't read the whole thing...

I voted YABU because, while I agree some posts are so long as to be off-putting, sometimes you need the detail. I also find it quite hypocritical that, if you say you struggle to understand a post because of poor SPAG, people will dive in to claim they understand it perfectly, and what about dyslexia, English as a second language etc.? Yet someone posts a long thread and it’s perfectly okay to criticise them for not being a professional standard editor or ‘tailoring to their audience’.

I also can’t help thinking that if you find threads with people called A and B ‘hard to follow’, you’re not really trying very hard. Is it any different to them being called Ann and Ben? People seem to wear a short attention span like a badge of honour these days.

I think that’s all the more reason for MN to finally create a ‘see OP’s posts’ button on threads!! A girl can dream

We've had that for years? For me, I have OP's posts highlighted in grey and mine in pink.

Unless that's because I use desktop on my lappy and not a phone?

I agree, it’s like listening to my rambling aunt. And even worse if there are no paragraphs.

I don’t bother with reading long posts.

And people that actually post ‘d’ in front of every bloody thing - ‘ddog’, ‘dnephew’...ridiculous!

I instantly click off any thread where the OP says "friend A let's call him Steve, and Y I'm going to call her Stacy". And sometimes a Z as well.

^^

This hits #1 one the troll chart for me. Stupid long posts is #2.

You’re being defensive now. About not being defensive 🤣

*GinDaddy

what are you or anyone else going to do about said posts?*

Erm, nothing. I don’t believe I suggested there should be some form of intervention.

And people that actually post ‘d’ in front of every bloody thing - ‘ddog’, ‘dnephew’...ridiculous

To be honest, the dug and the parrots are the only ones in my life who would get the ‘d’ in front. 💕

My human relatives can all get tae fuck.

#kiddingnotkidding

I think that people only do it to avoid accusations of drip feeding and so they cram it with anything that might be relevant.

But this then leads to, and this is my biggest pet peeve on MN, accusations of having planted 'a red herring' - duh, duh, duhhh.

A fucking red herring, every single time. A million Columbo wannabes waiting to pounce on the op for dazzling them with bullshit extraneous information while the real crime goes undetected but for their brilliant eye for detail.

Seriously, fuck off with your red herrings and take drip feeding with you.

Try Mumsnet if you find reading a few paragraphs a chore.

I've started clicking back out, particularly if it is one long massive paragraph.
My particular bugbear is when they make up a name for the person they are aggrieved about, 'let's call her sandra (not her real.name)', then never mention Sandra's name again. Might as well just call her, 'friend' or 'A'
Some people are incapable of giving a summary.
They include every bit of backstory, every example of offending behaviour, under the pretence if not drip feeding.
Really, it's just one long tedious rant.
'In 2007, that bought me nothing
in 2008 I got a.box of chocolates
2009, back to nothing
2010 nothing
2011...'
And on and on
Just say 'they rarely if ever buy decent gifts.'
Or, maybe, before posting, read the million and one other threads that say the same and add a 'Me Too', or 'I feel ya' comment on there.
Unless you have a new take on a topic you dont need your very own thread.

@StillCoughingandLaughing the point about friend a and b is that there's usually a friend C and D plus lots of back and forth 'he said' and 'she said' and 'friend a's dp said' and the whole thing does become difficult to follow.

@hazell42 couldn't agree more.

I do find it a chore. That's why I don't read the tl;dr ops.

‘Tl;dr’. People can’t even be bothered to type that a post was too long for them to read - even though most of us are using phones with predictive text. That says it all. Pathetic really.

‘Tl;dr’ Is just an acronym, why would you bother typing “too long didn’t read” when you can type tl;dr?

I think that a lot of times when OP is posting it is the first time they are really thinking about the issue. Threfore they are realizing more things as they type and the post becomes longer than intended.

Are you not very familiar with the internet? StillCoughingandLaughing

Are you familiar with DILLIGAF?