My sister has asked us family to look after her children this weekend so her and her husband can have a weekend away. When I say asked - she actually just told us she wanted to do it. She told us two weeks ago and I forgot about it as I hadn’t said yes. She mentioned again yesterday. Thing is, my parents are mid 70s and so I think it’s unfair for it to be just them who looks after them as they are preschool age so hard work. So it will need me to help and I want to help, I love the kids. But this weekend doesn’t work for me as I have uni work due in mid January and I live far away so I would have to come and stay in order to help.
So Am I being unreasonable to ask her to move the weekend away to end of Jan? They havn’t booked it yet.
It’s a repeat problem with my sister - she decides she wants to do something then tells us we need to look after the kids. I would prefer if she asked us when are we free to babysit and then work around that. She actually had to cancel a 5 night holiday this year as she booked it without asking anyone to babysit before she booked and my parents refused saying they couldn’t cope for 5 nights .
I always feel guilty saying no as I do want to help but I just wish my life could be taken into consideration prior to her booking things in.
So.... am I being unreasonable?