Is this weird behaviour or AIBU

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lealea6366 · 27/12/2019 07:17

Tell me if this is weird or am I being unreasonable?

My younger sister would have to be the most dependent person I think I have ever met. For years she always hated facebook, echoing our mother's opinions. When I signed up over ten years ago, they both whinged and complained about how bad it was, it will only get me into trouble, yadda yadda yadda. Fast forward to now, guess who have facebook, they both do. Now, I have x amount of friends, as we all do, but I no sooner friend someone and DS has the same friend. I can't be bothered stalking people, but DS stalks everyone and I have recently discovered her and I have over 270 mutual friends. I find that weird and creepy, so I changed my privacy settings. Now, both mother and sister constantly complain that they can't see my FB friends. Is this weird behaviour or AIBU?

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Oopsypoopsy2020 · 27/12/2019 07:20

Why would they need to see your FB friends? Weird.

TitianaTitsling · 27/12/2019 07:22

Do your 'friends' know her too? As in real life (if that's the correct terminology!)

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lealea6366 · 27/12/2019 07:24

Some yes, some no.

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RhymingRabbit3 · 27/12/2019 07:24

It's weird, but doesn't really matter. I'm surprised so many of your friends have accepted her request if they dont know her at all.

TreeTopTim · 27/12/2019 07:40

I would say weird. Both your sister sending friend requests to people they don't know and your friends accepting their requests.

hazell42 · 27/12/2019 08:00

Why do you care?
Lots of people changed their mind about fb, and quite a few have changed them back again.
So what?
If you dont want them to see your,explain to them why. Dont sit quietly and see the. Nothing good was ever achieved that way

funmummy48 · 27/12/2019 08:03

I think some people like to “collect” friends on Facebook to validate themselves and to feel as though they belong. I’ve had requests from friends of friends who I’ve never met and I just decline them. It’s odd behaviour on your Mum and sister’s part but I would just ignore it and not let it worry you.

Sierra259 · 27/12/2019 08:06

I would say weird. Both your sister sending friend requests to people they don't know and your friends accepting their requests

^This

Lobsterquadrille2 · 27/12/2019 08:09

I would add that if they constantly complain about not being able to see your Facebook friends, they have very little in their lives to complain about (which is great) and maybe need a new hobby or interest.

AFistfulofDolores1 · 27/12/2019 08:16

Set your Friends privacy to "Only Me".

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