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WhereDidThisComeFrom · 26/12/2019 23:42

Shamelessly posting here for traffic.

DD 17 months has a temperature of 40.1 at its highest and 39.4 at its lowest with calpol.

Been doctors. Told viral and to alternate calpol and ibuprofen, but quite honestly it always makes me nervous. So I asked 111/doctors/mum on how to do it and have been told different each time?!

If it matters to this she has been sick, is very lethargic, not at all herself and not eating.

Worried sick as she is my first and she has never been this unwell before.

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Procrastination4 · 27/12/2019 02:09

Sponging down with tepid water can really help reduce temperature. But the water has to be tepid, not cold. Wring out a face cloth in tepid water and use that. It might give your daughter some relief.

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WhereDidThisComeFrom · 27/12/2019 02:09

Oh god, I respect exW position completely. No anger there at all. She probably sees it as DH just not bothering with all in his panicked state. Nor do I blame her as he doesn't shine himself in glory at times.

If anything I told him off for expecting her to answer clearly when he wasn't being clear on DDs symptoms. She isn't a mind reader!

Funny thing is I remember illness as a kid (obviously not this young!) And it was me and my mum sitting on multiple sofas set out like beds, packed lunches and crappy tv. Even a happy meal to cheer me up. Even now if I feel unwell my default is a McDonalds to make me feel better. Purely cos that was always my treat.

DD is still zonked, temp back to 39.9 but put that down to lack of meds. But I am being brave and trusting myself on knowing she is exhausted and needs sleep more. Still keeping eyes on her for her to move so I can medicate in her sleep. But breathing is relaxed. She is content.

Mummy on the other hand needs a glass of wine!

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WhereDidThisComeFrom · 27/12/2019 02:10

No layers bar her thin pjs. Wanted to keep her as cool as possible while being cosy. She is never one for a duvet over her whole body anyway

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WhereDidThisComeFrom · 27/12/2019 02:11

Room is reading at 20 degrees which is average for ours

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KEW89 · 27/12/2019 02:14

It sounds very much like your suffering with anxiety OP, add a poorly child to the mix and you’be got quite the battle on your hands Sad for what it’s worth your the best person in the world to look after your little one so never forget that Flowers

Id also say trust your instincts - you as mum know best - and if your feeling uneasy or that things are out of control make the call. If not and she’s settled just check regularly on her for your own peace of mind (not just temp but her resp rates, the colour of her skin and her general responsiveness to being disturbed)

Defo one for giving ibrofen if she’ll take it half asleep. I say this as a mum who’s just done the same half an hour ago again with poorly little one and a temp (39.8) but she’s taken it quite happily and gone back off and I feel better for having done something. If she’s drinking and having wet nappies still these are all good signs. Keep monitoring and see how things go. Wishing a speedy recovery - it’s blummin hard being a mum but where would we be without them Wink

AuntieMaggie · 27/12/2019 02:17

I would undress her, try to cool the room a bit and wake her to give her the medicine with temperature of 39.9. Maybe cover her with a sheet/thin blanket. If you're giving Calpol and ibuprofen regularly make sure you aren't going over the maximum dose in 24 hours and write down what you are giving her when - if you haven't had any sleep it's easy to get confused.

The slightest change I would call 111 for advice. Hope she improves soon.

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WhereDidThisComeFrom · 27/12/2019 02:21

Thank you both. So sorry to hear your little one is going through similar.

Still waiting on dd to settle in a position where I can sneak some medication in. Keeps rolling over back into the same spot!

Skin/breathing/alertness is all in tune to what is expected with an ill little one. Nothing sends alarm bells. Her little dark circles rounds her eyes are worse than mine mind!

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gothefcktosleep · 27/12/2019 07:51

How is she now OP?

managedmis · 27/12/2019 19:13

How are you both doing, WDTCF?

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 27/12/2019 20:55

Hope you're both OK

Heismyopendoor · 28/12/2019 09:01

How are thing op?

Wynston · 28/12/2019 09:55

Hi op hope little one is brighter today.
From one anxious mum to another i get it!!!
My eldest is 8 now and i still read the label on the calpol and double check the dosage.
I would have also called ex wife and explained the situation to make sure she was happy with the kids mixing.
I think a toddler being pregnant and sleep deprivation is a pretty tough mix and i think that you are doing a great job.
Having a small person be completely reliant on you is hard going on the nerves but if at any point you need help ask youre gp for help.....i have done so on several occasions and cbt and medication has helped level me at hard times.
Just wanted to say you are not alone..

Mrshue · 28/12/2019 10:05

My daughter has stupidly high fevers. I was like you. We saw a fever specialist

A. If she’s not had a fit. She probably won’t have one according to him. If you have febrile seizures. You’re likely to know pretty quick. B. A temp is a good thing. Your daughters body is bringing up her core temp. To kill the bug. This is exactly what needs to happen. Despite it being high. (He always said to go if her temp went over 41.5. Which hers always did. As that’s getting high. But we were always usually just admitted for watching). Her body reacts well.

It’s worrying for sure. My daughters could go to 42.5. Easily. She was always sick for a very short time however. Colds she would only and still o my gas for 24-47 hrs.

My youngest who gets a temp. But maybe to 38.....is sick for weeks. I am sure it’s due to her temp

However. Trust your gut!!!!!!! My youngest was very sick for 2 years. Not a high temp. No real symptoms. But drs kept saying it was viral. I KNEW it wasn’t. IT turned out I was right!

So 100%. Trust your mummy instinct.

Mrshue · 28/12/2019 10:07

I also wouldn’t wake to give her medicine. Remember. Her body is doing what it should be doing. Fevers are good! Scary. But ultimately they are a good thing. It’s bloody awful though sitting next to someone hot.

NoMorePoliticsPlease · 28/12/2019 10:11

Not read every post but you said you are not sure how to alternate calpol and paracetamol, it is a little confusing as ibuprofen has a longer gap between doses ( I think 6 hours) and paracetamol 4 hours, It does work well if you give one then the other 4 hours later. I have also been told you can give both at the same time as thay dont interact but I have never doen that, Ibuprofen is generally very effective for a raised temperature

atankofskunks · 28/12/2019 13:59

Hope she's a bit brighter today op. You sound like a great mum by the way. We've all been there with poorly children at one time or another Thanks

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WhereDidThisComeFrom · 29/12/2019 03:58

Wynston - you sound like my double!

Thank you all so much for your help. I actually just posted again in a bit of a mood with the dr we saw, but realising the error of my ways.

Dd is on the mend. Spent ane choosing to pick just then to perk up. Shouting "shark" at the top of her lungs which sounds like "shit!" While bouncing over a bed... marebear!

Tonsillitis. Hopefully over the worst now.

Thank you all again so much

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