Would you go to a wedding where known DV had happened

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OH brother marrying awful GF early Jan.

Groom to be currently has a black eye and he’s confirmed she did it.

Back story, she’s super controlling, he’s tried to finish but she won’t let go, got pregnant when she was apparently on the pill etc generally awful manipulative person who’s caused family upset. He’s v passive!

I didn’t like her before but now have a massive issue with attending the wedding of somebody beat their other half, too much hypocrisy and fakery for me!

Its a hard one i dont think making a stand is the right way to do it irt the wedding-he'll need you and she'll cut u off if u dont turn up

Don't give his Gf a reason or ammunition to drive a wedge between you. She will use you not going as a reason to slag you off.

Tell him that that is the only reason you are going. And that you hate what is happening, fear for him but love him.
If he feels alone or thinks he will be judged every time he speaks to you he will never leave.

I'd go. I'd congratulate him. But not her.

Personally if that was my family I would turn up on the day and announce what she has been doing to him. If he marries the bitch it’s going to be harder for him to get away from her

Go to support him and tell him why you are going.
Don't cause a scene by announcing what is being done to him as PP have said. It will humiliate your BIL and cause problems in the family. It may, also, isolate your BIL as PPs have said.