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Vanity and Christmas Gift

22 replies

LilPet · 26/12/2019 18:15

I don't wish to seem ungrateful, but can't get over the vanity of this Christmas gift.

AIBU to not want a framed photo of my SIL between me and DH?

For context, all members of the extended family received similar, but alongside other things. Some of their photos had her and the recipient in. We got nothing else and are not in the photo. It's just a photo of her preening and the frame is scratched. We bought her things she had explicitly shown an interest in.

Is this weird or am I right to feel unvalued?

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Illcallbacklater · 26/12/2019 18:16

That is really really weird

Illcallbacklater · 26/12/2019 18:17

As in, her giving you a photo of herself preening as a Christmas present is weird. YANBU!

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 26/12/2019 18:19

Ah. So when you say between you and DH, you mean the present was for both of you, not that she was on the photo of you both playing piggy in the middle Grin. Bit weird, yes.

EL8888 · 26/12/2019 18:20

She’s odd. I vote dump it in a draw on remove the picture and give the frame to charity

Dozer · 26/12/2019 18:22

How odd and self absorbed of SiL!

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LilPet · 26/12/2019 18:22

So when you say between you and DH, you mean the present was for both of you

Apologies, my sentence could mean either! Yes, the gift was shared. We weren't in the photo and it wasn't taken at a family gathering or anything like that.

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beautifulstranger101 · 26/12/2019 18:26

Is your SIL Mariah Carey? lol

Livpool · 26/12/2019 18:29

Ha!

That is only a suitable present for someone under 8! And even then only really for grandparents

NoSauce · 26/12/2019 18:29

Fucking weird.

peardrops1 · 26/12/2019 18:44

Hilariously weird!!!

peardrops1 · 26/12/2019 18:45

This is almost as good as that recent thread about the poster whose friend had given her a necklace with the name of the friend's baby daughter engraved on it.

breakfastpizza · 26/12/2019 18:46

Maybe she's low on cash?

GiveHerHellFromUs · 26/12/2019 18:54

@breakfastpizza but then surely she could've given them a picture of a dog or some trees or anything that's not weird

peardrops1 · 26/12/2019 19:14

@breakfastpizza 😂😂😂 There are many low budget options that are not a picture of yourself!!!!

CoffeeBeansGalore · 26/12/2019 19:17

Next year give the frame back her for Christmas with a photo of both of you in it - nothing extra? ("last year we thought what a lovely gift so decided to do the same for you this year" tinkly laugh, head tilt) 😁

Rachelfromfriends1 · 26/12/2019 19:31

That’s a novelty gift surely

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LilPet · 26/12/2019 19:37

😂😂😂 There are many low budget options that are not a picture of yourself!!!! That's what DH and I thought!

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LilPet · 26/12/2019 19:38

@CoffeeBeansGalore Fab idea!

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Lellikelly26 · 26/12/2019 20:06

This is such a good idea. I’m going to give this to my SIL next year! I hate her btw

CombineBananaFister · 26/12/2019 20:12

Very weird yes. Yanbu.
My Dbro gave me a picture of him and his current fiancee for Xmas ( apparently this was for all of us - me, DH and DS) I'm not being churlish when I say current fiancee, we are on the 5th one and she seems lovely but so did the others.

JaJoJe · 27/12/2019 13:35

thats bizarre - next year gift her back one of those huge live, laugh, love multi photo frames each with a photo of you and DH in or a HUGE wall size canvas of you and DH on holiday etc...

JaJoJe · 27/12/2019 13:37

breakfastpizza - a photo of a random cute cat cut out of a magazine or a snap of the street they live on or a image of them stolen off Facebook and printed out would have been a better option than an odd photo of yourself.

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