Threatened miscarriage?! Am I unresonable to be SOO paranoid

[Charis1503]

Firstly, we are blessed with a perfect little boy who is nearly 2.5. Pregnancy was not easy, I bled continually untill about 6/7 months,horrendous gastric/gall bladder problems and we were induced at 37 week due to me developing obstetric cholesystasis. He then was in special care for a few weeks for prolonged apnoeas as he kept stopping breathing.

The year before we conceived him I had a very traumatic misscaraige which resulted in an emergency trip to theatre and a whole lot of counselling.

Well im currently 6-7 weeks pregnant and have been feeling fab we had an early scan on xmas eve which showed a heartbeat and everything looking as it should. Fab!

Within a few hours of getting home i began to pass brown sludge It hasnt been enough to even make it on to a pad but is there everytime i wipe. I have very mild soreness/cervix discomfort. Note - I didnt have an internal scan.

Despite bleeding with my son and him being perfectly healthy, I am obviously TERRIFIED this will result in another misscaraige. My biggest fear isnt that the baby will pass away ( as i know we can try again) its the thought of the actual misscaraige amd having to physically go through it. The pain,the large clots, actually seeing the tiny baby last time was beyond traumatic last time.

So ive rung EPU and they will happily see me again on sat morning for a rescan.

My partner is being supportive and helping out with little one to let me rest but he thinks i need to chill out, says i cant run to EPU for every twinge, every bit of brown discharge or everytime i convince myself i feel 'less nauseous" than yesterday! He kinda has a point, I am not managing my anxiety AT ALL - just want to rush back to them instantly.

I want to relax and just have some faith. I know there is absolutly nothing EPU could do to prevent a misscaraige but im hoping that they would be able to organise a pront D&C and prevent me going through the natural process....

Lordy, my heads a muddle!! Am I being resonable given the situation or do i need to just try and get on with things?

Brown discharge is old blood. I wouldn't worry yet, if at all.

Thank you. Ive read that lots of times and had friends with a similar experience,which is reassuring.

With my first miscaraige it was just brown blood/sludge for a few days, not even a hint of fresh blood then WOOSH out of no where I spontaneously passed huge red clots and the foetus. So im a bit on edge it will happen any minute x

Aw bless you. Sending big hugs. I’ve been in a similar place after having miscarriages and missed miscarriages but also felt like you that having a gorgeous baby was totally worth the worry. In my last pregnancy with our third child, I finally accepted I was only ever going to enjoy my pregnancies in retrospect. You feel how you feel. I remember “just wanting to know” so I could deal with it but you can’t know and that lack of control affects some more than others. You’ve been through a lot and being pregnant reminds you of this times. What I did was keep my feelings to myself as much as I could bear. Let’s face it, your OH isn’t so much bothered you’re feeling this way but feeling it’s impact on him is too great (so talk about it oodles and oodles online if taking about it helps you and keep it minimal in real life, as you and he both have to get through these 9 months). You’ll make it through and deal with whatever happens. That’s what strength truly lies as making it through is success.
I found when speaking to health professionals - if I said, I’m worried they’d tell me not to worry... which made me feel a zillion times worse. If I said, I need reassurance...they’d tell me they could do reassurance and then took steps to reassure me...which made me feel loads better.
Take care. Good luck with it all xx

Be kind to yourself OP, the first miscarriage sounds traumatic so of course you're going to feel anxious now. In situations like this where there is nothing you can do I find meditation helpful. I learned to just accept a certain level of anxiety - not fight it or constantly try to distract myself, kind of observe it and let it be for some reason that helped me keep it within manageable limits. I used the "calm" app.

I had the browny/pinky when I wipe blood on and off from week 7-13 it was always especially worse after an abdominal scan, I’m now 25 weeks and have a low lying placenta which may explain some of the bleeding, fingers crossed for you

I had brown blood at around the same time as you. Doctor told me it could have been from the placenta implanting in the wall of my uterus. I'm currently watching that pregnancy be pushed around as a big fat 11 month old in a plastic car by his grandmother!

I know how hard it is not to panic. I sat outside my place of work sobbing when I realised I'd wiped blood. Try to be kind to yourself. Unfortunately your partner will never understand completely how you feel. My husband told me to trust in our baby and it actually really helped me.

Hello everyone,

I know this thread is quite old and not so sure if anyone will pick up on my message.

Its my first pregnancy and i've only just joined mumsnet an hour ago and i'm hoping to find if someone is able to give me an insight on their experience if they have been through the same as me.

I'm 12 weeks pregnant (but have not had my initial scan yet so may be 2 weeks more or less)

Yesterday morning and evening i had slight brown discharge.

Today it was pinky / brown but only when i wiped.

Sorry for TMI - but has anyone experienced this in their pregnancies?

My midwife has said not to worry unless its fresh blood but that doesn't really stop the worrying

Hi @Goldenwonder112
You would be better creating a new thread either in the conception or pregnancy boards. They're really good for support for this kind of thing.

I didn't have bleeding but I am on a Facebook group for my due month and loads of women did. If it's only when you wipe thats a really good sign. Wear a pad and keep track of how much it is, if it fills a pad then ring your early pregnancy unit. If you can, try to rest as much as possible.

How soon is your 12 week scan? They'll be able to tell you then what could be causing it. Most importantly, keep calm.

Thank you so much @Godimabitch xx