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AIBU to (mostly) hate music in shops, pubs and restaurants?

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WendyMad · 26/12/2019 15:59

I started to write this before Christmas, then thought I'd wait till after Xmas to post it. Glad I did. I've just got home from an insanely crowded shopping mall, and the thing that turned it from mere bedlam into hell on earth was the thumping, screeching music they inflicted on us, so loud I couldn't even hear my phone. So I'm doubly motivated to post now.

AIBU to (mostly) hate music in shops, pubs and restaurants?

It's ok if it's relaxing music, or if it's just in the background. But often it hits you as you walk in the door, and seems designed to get you jangled. I like most types of music in the right context – but in a shop I need to think, and in a pub or restaurant I want to relax. So why would I want drums pounding into my head?

Sometimes I suspect most people dislike it, but no-one says so because we all think everyone else must like it.

What do you think?

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Am I being unreasonable?


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recklessruby · 26/12/2019 16:16

Yanbu. I find i cant concentrate in shops with blaring music and always forget something important like toothpaste!
I was in JD sports Christmas eve and i swear they were playing bloody Jingle bells speeded up (added to the general panic so probably made people buy impulsively).
I couldn't wait to get out but I hate noise and heat anyway.


Sirzy · 26/12/2019 16:18

I like a bit of background music in a restaurant, nothing loud though. Because I have a thing about the noise of people eating so can’t eat in silence (even alone I annoy myself!)

Everywhere else I am with you and it’s even worse when two different musics clash somewhere so it’s a complete sensory overload!


LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 26/12/2019 16:20

The doctors. I've had the misfortune of being a regular recently and l don't know how they stand it.

Micheal Buble at this time of year too. FML.


VeryMerryChristmas · 26/12/2019 16:20

I don’t mind music you can talk over, but it’s just too loud in a lot of places.

We went to the pub for for an after dinner drink yesterday. Lovely, cosy place and there were the last few families enjoying their Christmas dinner. The Christmas music was deafening and we struggled to have a conversation. I would have had indigestion eating my lunch with the racket on the background.


Hingeandbracket · 26/12/2019 16:22



schnubbins · 26/12/2019 16:29

I often leave hops without buying when the music is annoying or too loud.An awful lot of Christmas music is just diabolical though and so repetitive .If I hear Santa Claus is Coming to Town in a shop ,I just leave.


mrsbyers · 26/12/2019 16:46

I’m the opposite in restaurants and hate them when silent


Ithinkwerealonenowtiffany · 26/12/2019 16:46

I never go into JD for this very reason. Hate their choice of music.

Kids go in, i stand outside.


TheSquitz · 26/12/2019 16:50

I ask for music to be turned down in cafes etc If they don't oblige, I don't stay.


bigbluebus · 26/12/2019 16:55

JD Sports is the worst shop I've ever set foot in for loud music! They opened a new store in the shopping centre in our local town. DH and I ventured in for a look (although quite frankly we should have known better as the music could be heard from outside in the mall). We won't be going in again.


izzybobsmum · 26/12/2019 16:57

I have tinnitus and avoid a lot of places these days for that very reason! It's no fun going shopping or out for a meal and it being so noisy your ears are screeching by the time you get home. I pity the poor people who have to work in these places....


belay · 26/12/2019 17:26

Nice coffee in Costa ruined by music . Every single time


Somanysocks · 26/12/2019 17:41

I had to go into Savers today, I don't usually notice their music but today it was so loud at the tills I made a point to keep saying 'pardon' to the cashier Grin

I guess there was no manager in today.


Misscromwellrocks · 26/12/2019 20:46

YANBU. I particularly hate this in restaurants. A bit of background music is nice., but loud thumpy music you have to shout over is a complete turn off - as is the reluctance by some staff to turn it down when asked. I never return to a restaurant where I have to put up with this.


0blio · 26/12/2019 20:52

I absolutely hate loud music in shops and can't concentrate on what I'm supposed to be buying at all. Like a previous poster I always end up forgetting something.


ThisIsMeOrIsIt · 26/12/2019 21:18

I absolutely hate this! I am hearing impaired and hearing aids amplify everything, not just speech. So trying to hear what the staff are saying, especially when they're fiddling about with the till and the items and a bag etc. and not even LOOKING at me so I can lip read to try and help me, is becoming more of a nightmare for me every year.

I vote with my feet if a shop has loud music and if it's a restaurant or cafe I have no problem telling them I'm hearing impaired and asking them to turn it down.

I understand shops want music so people feel they can talk without disturbing the silence, but it's quite easy to have it at a reasonable volume. Actually, I find pretty much all the shops I go in are just not Deaf-friendly or even Deaf-aware, really.

(Bit different, but I must throw in a mention of the Pret a Manger I used to frequent, who insisted on playing a CD regularly that had a version of 'Take Five' played in 4/4... Xmas Angry )


zurala · 26/12/2019 21:56

YANBU I'm autistic and it makes shopping unbearable. I get really nauseous and tearful when there's loud distracting music. They had it on in Tesco before Christmas and I had to leave.


Sweetpea55 · 26/12/2019 22:16

Having breakfast in the Copthorne in Newcastle turned into a sort of fast eating competition.
I like places were the breakfastime music eases you into the day.
This particular morning we were treated to Tina Turner 'Nutbush City Limits'
We subconsciously began to eat faster to keep up with the music


HoldMyLobster · 26/12/2019 22:30

I regularly leave shops because I can't concentrate enough to work out what to buy, and I'm finding the music overwhelming.

I'm in the US so they usually ask 'Did you find everything you needed?' and I usually tell them I did not, because the music was so loud I couldn't concentrate.

Maybe I should get earplugs.

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