Gifts

[littlelostvamp]

Aibu, my best mate is upset that I didn't get anything of my partner for Christmas, yet im sat here not bothered at all. We had a lovely day. Started new traditions. Enjoying the babies 1st real Christmas and the messes he got into trying new foods.
And seeing the older children's little faces light up.

Get she thinks I should get somthing. She got me a bath bomb set. I'm too polite to say I'm allergic to it. So told her im going to pop them on display to make loo room smell nice. (I love them so at least they will get a use.)

YANBU. I'd be a bit pissed of if we were expecting to exchange gifts and DH hadn't bothered but it's fine (and great for the environment!) not to exchange gifts. DH loves giving gifts but I'd be perfectly happy to stop gifts to each other and just do the DC.

Why she upset on your behalf?

Amen to it being better for the environment.

Did you get your partner anything?

If not, why isn't she 'upset' about that?

It's none of her business. It sounds like you had a lovely Christmas and mutually agree on the gift situation.

How you look after each other all year round is more important than giving gifts on one day of the year. I feel the same about valentine's day which we don't do either.

Some people are completely unable to imagine a relationship different from theirs. Doing gifts/not doing gifts. Joint/separate banking accounts, texting while out/waiting till you get home etc. Anyone who does things differently from them it must be because there's some flaw in their relationship.

I find it more odd that she's that invested in your gift giving.

Well to be fair OP, him not bothering (which is what it is, if you didn't agree no gifts) isn't really normal, or particularly kind- you only have to see the no. of upset posts on here to gauge how much hurt it causes some so I don't think it's completely bizarre for her to feel on your behalf, if she cares about you. It's as though you're making out she is no better for getting you a gift you can't use; at least she bothered! Does she usually otherwise say negative things about him?

With that said I think it's great that you aren't personally fussed and you're definitely not BU for that, your day sounds lovely so there isn't any point creating issues from nothing that you don't organically feel bothered about.

I don't receive Christmas gifts from anyone, it really doesn't bother me. It's obviously important to her, but she should be able to understand that everyone is different.

Me and my partner don’t buy each other Christmas gifts anymore. We don’t need anything and buy stuff in the year!

I don’t really get gifts from anyone. My mum doesn’t bother. Sometimes mil will buy me something but she’s struggling financially this heat and has had to cut it right down. I understand.. sometimes my granny will give me some money but not a gift. I would love to open a present but also the best part of Christmas for me was seeing Dc open their gifts.