To think they should’ve done this in private?

[fairynick]

Christmas Day yesterday and my sister and I only have a year between us. Both early twenties.
Uncle and Aunty arrived with a gift bag for each of us. All other family members usually give us exactly the same because we have similar tastes etc. They got us both a big bar of chocolate, gloves and a little purse. Which was really nice and generous of them. I don’t ever expect anything and I understand that you don’t give to receive.
However, my sister then had a fourth present which was a passport holder with 50 euros inside. Both of us are going abroad separately in the new year.
I understand that if they want to spend more on my sister than I then they are well within their rights to but was it not a bit weird to get us both exactly the same then one extra for one sister. Or they could’ve given her the cash in private rather than in front of everyone else. Or am I just being a brat over it?

If i was your sister i would share the euros with you. Assume they didnt know, it will make you feel better if nothing else!
And OP doesn't need to grow up, i think most people would find it a bit hurtful.

She forgot the gift for them, you put her name on it. If I were her, I'd share the money with you.

I do think it’s a bit insensitive of them.
Hopefully, it is just as your mother predicted and they found them lying around so were ‘getting rid’ of them so to speak.
If I was your sister I would just split them with you, however, as she had forgotten a present and added on to yours I would give you all the euros to cover that.

That’s actually pretty rude.
I’d suddenly be too busy to house sit.

have you looked in the purse?

If I was your sister, I would offer you 25 euros, especially as she didn't contribute towards their gift. She is being unreasonable!

Auntie and Uncle presents should always be of equal value!

I remember my little niece when she was about 6 doing the maths that a hoodie she got was equal to the two t-shirts I gave her sister. She was satisfied after she'd done the figures - but it was touch and go for a second...

If they don't have forms for being dicks though - I think it sounds like an oversight and they didn't know you were going away. Although tbh if I gave a going away present I would still give the equivalent...

I actually think that if they new your sister was going abroad it was reasonable to give her a few Euro to spend . My son went o South America last year and my sister gave him £300 in various currencies and my other two late teen children were fine about it . If they definitely new you were going away then it would be unreasonable of your aunt and uncle.

might they have overlooked putting something in your gift bag? It is weird to treat you so differently if they usually get you the same thing.

Maybe they're planning on giving you something extra for house sitting and they'll give you that in private when you go over?

Is your sister's trip abroad soon? Maybe they do know you are going away but will give you some travel money nearer the time?

I would guess they don't know you are going away.

I think that if your sister doesn't see fit to share, having been bailed out by you re the gift (is she going to pay you half?) and your relatives don't offer an equivalent for the house sitting, in your position I wouldn't be offering such favours to either again.

Yes, did you look in the purse? Maybe they've given you the equivalent in sterling if they didn't know you were going away?